A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marital plan, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Work on Nov 15th, 2016
When my second hubby and I married, we knew we wanted to be parents. We were both working in the newspaper industry — meaning we weren’t wealthy — but because we both agreed that we wanted someone to be home to raise the kids. Since he was older and more established in his career (and […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Oct 11th, 2016
No matter how you feel about the Angelina Jolie-Brad Pitt divorce — including the desire to not have to think about it, celebrity divorces or divorce in general — there is one thing all parents should pay attention to. The reason they split, we’re lead to believe, is because they couldn’t agree on how to […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Aug 30th, 2016
I am feeling it for Huma Abedin. Just yesterday, Abedin — vice chairwoman of Hillary Clinton’s 2016 presidential campaign — announced that she is separating from her husband, Anthony Weiner, who resigned from Congress in 2011 and lost a bid to be mayor of New York City in 2013, both times because of sexting scandals. […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Friends, Love, Relationships on Aug 9th, 2016
I’ve long been a fan of the writings of Meg-John Barker, a psychology lecturer and sex and gender therapist whose book, Rewriting the Rules, is a must-read for those who question the romantic love script most of us tend to follow as if it’s the only path available to us. So I was not surprised […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Family, Parenting, Relationships on May 17th, 2016
A few weeks ago the New York Post brought the concept of bird nesting back into our consciousness, but it wasn’t until Kelly Ripa brought it up as a taunt on Live with Kelly and Michael that people began to take notice. Bird nesting — when children stay in the family home and the parents […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Love, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes on May 10th, 2016
When the U.S. Supreme Court ruled last year that same-sex couples could marry no matter which state they lived in, many believed it would open the door to polyamorous marriage — marriage among three or more people. “I don’t think it’s going to be as far in the future as people think,” a confident Robyn […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Renewable marriage on Apr 5th, 2016
This week, there were two stories that addressed the “happily-ever-after” version of marriage many of us expect, or at least want to believe. Actress Drew Barrymore and her third husband, art consultant Will Kopelman, are divorcing after two children and three years of marriage. At the same time, a Maine couple were being honored for […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Women on Feb 23rd, 2016
When I divorced the first time, in my 20s, there were a few people who were upset — my former husband and me, naturally, as well as our parents. Beyond that? Nope. How different a reality than when I divorced the second time. Was it because I was then middle-aged, and people worried about what […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Women on Feb 2nd, 2016
When I said “I do” the second time, at age 32, I knew what this marriage was about — kids. We both said we wanted to have a child, maybe two (my preference), and we talked about what that might mean for us financially. We were both journalists at the time — not big income […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Marriage, Mothers, Relationships on Dec 22nd, 2015
Ben Affleck’s mom is unhappy. According to news reports, Christine Boldt supports Jennifer Garner’s willingness to reconcile, and is advising her son to get his act together and try counseling as a way to work through their marital problems. While I’m sure Boldt means well — as a mom myself, we always mean well — […]
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