A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Needs, Parenting, Relationships on Mar 24th, 2020
Maybe you’ve been unhappy in your marriage for a long time. Maybe you just came to that realization. Maybe you’ve been going to marital therapy or have been reading up about divorce. Maybe you’ve spoken to a divorce attorney. Maybe you were close to deciding what to do — and then the coronavirus pandemic hit. […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Parenting prenup, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Jan 14th, 2020
Most of us would agree that kids need to be raised in a loving environment and tneed their parents to love them. But love each other? Actually, no.
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Nov 20th, 2018
It’s almost Thanksgiving, the beginning of the holiday season and the kick off of “engagement season.” The pressures around the holidays make many of us unhappy, and even if we’re generally OK with our situations — partnered or not — it’s hard not to buy into the whole “most wonderful time of the year” thing. […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Sex on Sep 11th, 2018
A few weeks ago, I heard from Christina Hoff Sommers and Danielle Crittenden, creators of the Femsplainers podcast, who kindly asked me to join them for Season Two and talk about reshaping marriage a la The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels. And so I did. Sommers, the author of five […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Jan 2nd, 2018
It’s January, a new year and the beginning of what’s known as “divorce month.” But when you file for divorce doesn’t really matter — what matters is how you divorce, especially if you have young children. Say what you will about Gwyenth Paltrow and her vaginal jade eggs, and Goop’s $290 sweat set, but there’s […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Dec 5th, 2017
It’s December, beginning of engagement season. So if you’ve already gotten a ring, or hoping to get one this month, there’s just one thing left to do after you’re told your loved ones and friends, and posted your bling on Facebook and Instagram. No, not start planning your wedding — start planning your marriage. First […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents on Nov 14th, 2017
Do we need marriage? The answer might be Iceland. For much of history, marriage mattered. It was a way to make sure property could be passed to heirs, alliances could be forged (often to avoid wars), children could be reared, society could be assured that caregiving would be taken care of and a lot of […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Love, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Jul 25th, 2017
Many people made fun of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s conscious uncoupling a few years ago. But it’s evident that they have influenced a number of other newly divorced celebrity parents who are raising kids together to put aside their anger and differences and come together for their family. (Sienna Miller even admits to doing […]
Posted in Expectations, Live Apart Together, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships on Mar 21st, 2017
The secret to a happy marriage may mean living apart together in separate master suites, a recent Wall Street Journal article declared. Not everyone lives in a “4,700 square-foot Tudor home” or wants to, but without a doubt, more people, especially older people (like — *sigh* — me) are interested in having a room — […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Mar 14th, 2017
Scarlett Johansson recently declared in a Playboy interview that monogamy wasn’t natural, which may or may not be why she’s divorcing her husband of barely two years, Romain Dauriac. The couple have a child together, 2-year-old Rose, and according to news reports, it appears as if they are heading toward a nasty custody battle. None […]
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