A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Expectations, Heartbreak, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Jan 24th, 2017
We are approaching Valentine’s Day, the most romantic time of the year, according to many. It’s when we buy a card and chocolates in heart-shaped boxes, and profess our love to our one true love. But what if you have two true loves? If you’re Carrie Jenkins, a philosophy professor at the University of British […]
Posted in Caregiving, Coupledom, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 3rd, 2017
There’s an odd thing that happens whenever women write about how marriage is a better deal for men than women — men want to argue that we’re wrong. Marriage is bad for men, then say and then they back up their arguments by talking about … divorce. They complain that women get alimony, or spousal […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Single parents on Dec 27th, 2016
Ever since the second International Congress on Love and Sex with Robots took place a few weeks ago, there have been a deluge of articles talking about marriage between humans and robots and how sexbots might impact marriages, for better or worse. For every robot enthusiast, like artificial intelligent expert and Love and Sex With […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Dec 21st, 2016
I grew up watching Disney films, from Cinderella to Snow White to Fantasia to Mary Poppins. I loved all of them, dressed as a princess or ballerina on many a Halloween and … well, I think it stops there. As a young girl, I never thought — or expected — a handsome prince would rescue […]
Posted in Beauty, Dating, Expectations, Millennials, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Dec 6th, 2016
I’m probably late to the party on this, but evidently millennials aren’t having much sex. Blame it on porn, blame it on hookup culture, blame it on the number of 20-somethings still living it home — maybe it’s all of that or some of that or none of that. Or maybe it’s something different. Like […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Nov 28th, 2016
The news that Melania Trump will live apart from her husband, President-elect Donald Trump for a few months until their son Barron, 10, finished school, was shocking to many people. While it may seem odd that a married couple doesn’t live together, the Trumps’ decision to live apart is actually part of a growing trend […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marital plan, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Work on Nov 15th, 2016
When my second hubby and I married, we knew we wanted to be parents. We were both working in the newspaper industry — meaning we weren’t wealthy — but because we both agreed that we wanted someone to be home to raise the kids. Since he was older and more established in his career (and […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 8th, 2016
It’s a familiar story — a talented but tortured man, consumed by drugs or booze or demons or womanizing or all of the above, is told by his woman: “It’s me or your partying.” And just like that, he cleans up his act and starts putting her and their family first. Then they live happily […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Nov 1st, 2016
Monogamous marriage is unromantic. Not my words but the words of actor Hugh Grant while promoting the movie Florence Foster Jenkins. As he told radio host Howard Stern: I can see the lovely aspect if you marry exactly the right person — your best friend and it’s cozy and it’s lovely. But, people make so […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Wife on Oct 25th, 2016
When I interviewed Eric Anderson, an American sociologist at England’s University of Winchester, a few years ago, when his provocative book, The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating, was published, I was disturbed by his claim that cheating is a rational choice for people constrained by the social dictate of monogamy. According […]
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