Millennials have become a much maligned generation — they’re either living in their parents’ basement, or spending too much time playing video games, or unable to buy a home because they’re spending too much money on avocado toast or delaying marriage, aka “failing” to reach the traditional markers of adulthood (hey, maybe those markers need […]
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Oh, Suzanne Venker. Your marriage was in trouble. You admit that your “alpha ways were bumping up against” your husband’s “alpha nature,” that you were “like two bulls hanging out in the same pen together, and there was too much friction.” So you decided you needed to become more feminine because it worked in your […]
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I’m probably late to the party on this, but evidently millennials aren’t having much sex. Blame it on porn, blame it on hookup culture, blame it on the number of 20-somethings still living it home — maybe it’s all of that or some of that or none of that. Or maybe it’s something different. Like […]
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I am not a fan of the self-help industry nor of most so-called relationship “experts.” Whenever people start spewing what someone should or shouldn’t do, I get nervous. Who can tell us what’s right or wrong for us? That said, some people often make sense in sharing their stories of their missteps and what they […]
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Marriage is hard work but worth it. If you end up divorced, it means you didn’t try hard enough, you don’t know what commitment means and you’re putting you own happiness before your family’s — or all of the above — and that’s why you have a failed marriage. What divorced person hasn’t heard that […]
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Posted in Expectations, Love, Relationships on Jun 1st, 2015
I have been enjoying reading Mark Manson, a self-described “author, blogger and entrepreneur.” Recently, he blogged on why people cheat on their partners and I felt compelled to send it to a friend who’d recently gone through an unexpected and painful breakup of an eight-year relationship, albeit unrelated to cheating. “The one time I told […]
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A few friends and I were talking about the affairs we either experienced in our own relationships or that we knew of among other friends. And that’s the context in which a married former neighbor’s one-night, tequila-fueled fling while on a gals get-away in Cabo San Lucas was brought up. “I think we’d all forgive […]
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Dear Anthony D’Ambrosio, I usually don’t say “I’m sorry” when I hear someone tell me he or she’s newly divorced — often, it’s a happier, healthier outcome — but in your case, I’m truly sorry. You seem a tad nostalgic. You have been blogging about love and relationships since your divorce and a recent post, […]
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Believing things between the sexes have gotten tense, Esquire magazine explores the state of men and women today in April’s issue. While I can’t say I understand any better what’s going on now that I’ve read the essays, I was particularly drawn to Jen Doll’s essay, The Burden of Choice: What it Means to Be […]
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I was honored to be able to present some of the research on how marriage is changing that Susan Pease Gadoua and I unearthed while writing The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels before a group of therapists recently. As has been true in the many years I have been a […]
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