A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Uncategorized on Mar 19th, 2012
Like many, I was surprised when Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins had split back in 2009. They seemed like a pretty solid couple, although they’re celebrities so who really knows. But I was more surprised by her recent statement that their parting made her “feel like a failure.” We like to believe that relationships will last […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting on Feb 28th, 2012
As you probably know if you’ve seen my writing on Huffington Post, Facebook, Twitter or this blog, Susan Pease Gadoua and I are collaborating on a book about reimaging marriage, which we’re calling, The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels. So, of course, I have been researching marriage and thinking about […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Men, Parenting, Women on Feb 20th, 2012
I had the pleasure of interviewing Eve Ensler last week. She’s heading to town for an event this week, a conversation with Isabel Allende at Dominican University. An award-winning author and playwright (The Vagina Monologues, The Good Body) and creator of V-Day, which has raised some $70 million to fight violence against girls and women […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Men, Singles, Women on Feb 13th, 2012
A girlfriend with whom I have been trying to make plans texted me: she’s free to get together Tuesday or Wednesday night. I’m free both nights, too, but then it occurred to me — Tuesday is Valentine’s Day. Even in liberal, open-minded Bay Area, would two women grabbing drinks and dinner together on the most […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage on Feb 2nd, 2012
Tall, dark, attractive, blue-eyed, blond, intelligent, athletic, funny, fit, shapely — certain traits turn us on when it comes to finding someone to love. But with couples breaking up all the time and a 50 percent or so divorce rate, those traits mean little when it comes to what really matters — finding someone who […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Dec 1st, 2011
When the anatomically correct, customizable, touch-responsive, personality-changing sexbot named Roxxxy was unveiled at the Adult Entertainment Expo in 2010, it — she? — was met with a lot of snarky responses. Only losers and perverts would be interested in shelling out $7,000 for a glorified sex toy, many said. Inventor and TrueCompanion founder Douglas Hines […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Dating, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Parenting, Singles on Sep 24th, 2011
I am about to say something that many might consider blasphemous — I don’t think couples should live together. Now, before you cast me as some pro-marriage, uber-conservative who has been reading one too many National Marriage Project (NMP) studies, be assured I am not. At the risk of sounding somewhat Orwellian, let me clarify: […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Fathers, Marriage, Men, Women on Jul 13th, 2011
Gabriel Aubry is being a bad dad. Well, we don’t know that for a fact; all we know is that actress Halle Berry, with whom the model had a daughter, now 3, is claiming that he’s been neglectful. She may be right, she may be wrong, but in the eyes of much of the world, […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jun 8th, 2011
He’s sexually “inappropriate.” He lies about it for a while, but gets busted anyway. He apologizes to everyone he’s hurt, mostly his wife. Can you guess whom I’m talking about? The joke is that men often think with the wrong head. But with all the high-profile sexual misadventures of late — Arnold Schwarzenegger, Dominique Strauss-Kahn, […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on May 30th, 2011
He may have been the world’s most wanted terrorist at the time he was killed, but it turns out Osama bin Laden was also a typical man. Evidently, bin Laden had an “extensive” stash of porn at his compound in Abbottabad, Pakistan, according to officials. There’s no way to know if the Mrs. — or […]
