A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting on Jun 11th, 2012
My son’s high school graduation last week was a sea of faces filled with a mix of joy, exhaustion, sadness and uncertainty — not just the 18-year-olds but their parents as well. As I looked around me, I wondered how many married couples, a good portion about to be empty-nesters, would still be married for […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Men, Sex, Women on May 29th, 2012
Of the many conversations couples need to have before they get married — or move in together — comes another one: What role will the Internet play in their relationship and how transparent are they going to be about that? At least that’s the opinion of Beatriz Avila Mileham, who interviewed married people who used […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on May 21st, 2012
A few months ago, I had a chance to interview Woodacre therapist Louis Breger about his book Psychotherapy: Lives Intersecting, in which he describes how he contacted former patients after decades to discover if his work with them helped. I was intrigued not only because I love all things psychological, but because I have been […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Women on May 7th, 2012
I enjoyed reading Barbara Risman’s take on the whole Mommy Wars thing, allegedly reignited by the Hilary Rosen-Ann Romney flap. Risman, the head of the sociology department at the University of Illinois at Chicago and the Council on Contemporary Families’ executive officer, called it a bunch of silliness, while acknowledging a truth (emphasis mine): (T)here […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Men, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Stereotypes, Women on May 1st, 2012
Mothers are back in the news again, thanks to Democratic strategist Hilary Rosen whose comment about stay-at-home-mom of five Ann Romney, wife of presidential candidate Mitt Romney, as a woman who “has actually never worked a day in her life” reignited the so-called Mommy Wars. No one really knows what to do with the state […]
Posted in Aging, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Stereotypes, Women on Apr 24th, 2012
A few of us were talking about men — a favorite subject — when Alec Baldwin’s name came up. The 54-year-old “30 Rock” actor is engaged to Hilaria Thomas, who’s 28. “It isn’t fair,” lamented one beautiful, brilliant 50-something friend who’s single and would love to find a partner. “We all know what those marriages […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women, Work on Apr 23rd, 2012
I wouldn’t want to be one of the 11 Secret Service agents who engaged in hanky-panky with hookers in Colombia right now. Not just because of the uncomfortable media exposure and forced resignations, but because when they get home to their wives or significant others, you just know there’s going to be some ‘splaining to […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 9th, 2012
It’s been a tumultuous weekend, to say the least. One of my kids is angry at me, my BF and I had a huge fight and when I went to go cry it all out at my mother’s grave, I discovered that the rocks and other things I’d left on her tombstone were gone — removed, […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 2nd, 2012
Because of the book project I’m working on The New I Do, I had heard from Melissa of The Long Haul Project, a young couple who, “on a journey to save our marriage,” have been meeting married couples around the globe and recording their secrets to marital happiness. So I read through their blog and […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Singles on Mar 26th, 2012
I’m back to thinking about marriage again. I know; it’s like I have a one-track mind but in doing research for The New I Do, I pretty much have to (nice excuse, right?) With all the negative things we hear about marriage — from sexless, loveless marriages to the high rate of infidelity to the […]
