A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women, Work on Apr 23rd, 2012
I wouldn’t want to be one of the 11 Secret Service agents who engaged in hanky-panky with hookers in Colombia right now. Not just because of the uncomfortable media exposure and forced resignations, but because when they get home to their wives or significant others, you just know there’s going to be some ‘splaining to […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 9th, 2012
It’s been a tumultuous weekend, to say the least. One of my kids is angry at me, my BF and I had a huge fight and when I went to go cry it all out at my mother’s grave, I discovered that the rocks and other things I’d left on her tombstone were gone — removed, […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 2nd, 2012
Because of the book project I’m working on The New I Do, I had heard from Melissa of The Long Haul Project, a young couple who, “on a journey to save our marriage,” have been meeting married couples around the globe and recording their secrets to marital happiness. So I read through their blog and […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Children, Dating, Divorce, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Women on Mar 12th, 2012
When I asked a friend recently how she’s doing, she paused and answered, “I keep wondering if this is all there is.” She, like me, is 50-something and like many 50-somethings we are empty-nesters or about to be empty-nesters; we’re either 20-something years into a marriage or divorced. We’re in the so-called “midlife crisis” years, […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Men, Parenting, Women on Feb 20th, 2012
I had the pleasure of interviewing Eve Ensler last week. She’s heading to town for an event this week, a conversation with Isabel Allende at Dominican University. An award-winning author and playwright (The Vagina Monologues, The Good Body) and creator of V-Day, which has raised some $70 million to fight violence against girls and women […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Men, Singles, Women on Feb 13th, 2012
A girlfriend with whom I have been trying to make plans texted me: she’s free to get together Tuesday or Wednesday night. I’m free both nights, too, but then it occurred to me — Tuesday is Valentine’s Day. Even in liberal, open-minded Bay Area, would two women grabbing drinks and dinner together on the most […]
Posted in Aging, Dating, Men, Sex, Singles, Women on Feb 7th, 2012
A few things went through my head while watching the Super Bowl (beside being thankful that my son gave up football — the injuries! the physical abuse! — and thinking that it would be a bit unfair to be married to Gisele Bundchen and win the Super Bowl). In no particular order, Madonna, aging, Valentine’s […]
It’s the era of The Single. New York University sociologist Eric Klinenberg’s new book, Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone, which arrives next week, is getting a lot of buzz. Why? As Klinenberg points out in an article in Fortune magazine (adapted from his book): Only 51% of adults today are […]
Posted in Divorce, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jan 20th, 2012
You’re married and you discover that your spouse is unfaithful. You’re devastated and consider getting a divorce. But, divorce doesn’t seem to be enough — shouldn’t someone pay for the anguish and shame the affair has caused you? Yes, according to Louisiana State University law professor and tort expert William R. Corbett, whose 2001 paper, […]
Posted in Divorce, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jan 9th, 2012
There have been lots of responses to my Huffington Post piece “Why Men Need to Cheat” (at last count, 4,042 comments and a lot of responses throughout the web, including one by Chopper Papa), but I then I got an email from a reader who calls himself U.G. Gold. Mr. Gold, a self-described conservative (take that, Culture […]
