A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Jun 13th, 2017
In a brilliant essay in the New York Times this past weekend, “America Made Me a Feminist,” former supermodel Paulina Porizkova wrote about how women are treated around the world, or at least the countries she’s lived in, and in America. Moving to France after living in Sweden for a number of years, where women […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Wife on Apr 11th, 2017
A few months ago, singer Janet Jackson made news by becoming a first-time mother at age 50, to a baby boy Eissa. This week, she made news again — she and her husband, Qatari businessman Wissam Al Mana, have separated. According to Page Six, a family source said Jackson became aware of cultural problems between […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Wife, Women on Feb 14th, 2017
Oh, Suzanne Venker. Your marriage was in trouble. You admit that your “alpha ways were bumping up against” your husband’s “alpha nature,” that you were “like two bulls hanging out in the same pen together, and there was too much friction.” So you decided you needed to become more feminine because it worked in your […]
Posted in Caregiving, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Wife, Women on Jan 10th, 2017
I’m not one to live in regrets. My feeling is, if I’m happy where I am right now then everything before this point, good and bad, got me here. That’s good enough. But every once and a while, I come across the “what I wish I knew before ….” articles, including ones on “what I […]
Posted in Caregiving, Coupledom, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 3rd, 2017
There’s an odd thing that happens whenever women write about how marriage is a better deal for men than women — men want to argue that we’re wrong. Marriage is bad for men, then say and then they back up their arguments by talking about … divorce. They complain that women get alimony, or spousal […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Dec 21st, 2016
I grew up watching Disney films, from Cinderella to Snow White to Fantasia to Mary Poppins. I loved all of them, dressed as a princess or ballerina on many a Halloween and … well, I think it stops there. As a young girl, I never thought — or expected — a handsome prince would rescue […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 8th, 2016
It’s a familiar story — a talented but tortured man, consumed by drugs or booze or demons or womanizing or all of the above, is told by his woman: “It’s me or your partying.” And just like that, he cleans up his act and starts putting her and their family first. Then they live happily […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Wife on Oct 25th, 2016
When I interviewed Eric Anderson, an American sociologist at England’s University of Winchester, a few years ago, when his provocative book, The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating, was published, I was disturbed by his claim that cheating is a rational choice for people constrained by the social dictate of monogamy. According […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Sep 6th, 2016
We had been talking about honesty in romantic relationships — how honest should you be, and if there’s a place for little white lies. It was prompted by a memory. Years ago a friend was egged on by her husband to tell him her fantasies. She hesitated for a long time because her fantasy involved […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Wife on Aug 1st, 2016
The conventions just ended and there were a few speeches that will never be forgotten, Melania Trump‘s for one and Michelle Obama‘s for another. And then there was Bill Clinton’s about his wife and Democratic presidential nominee, Hillary Clinton. Of course Bill praised his wife. But as he did, many couldn’t help but wonder about […]
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