A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Feb 24th, 2014
Should women make men wait to have sex? There’s been a flurry of discussion lately about that lately, first with the release of a video “The Economics of Sex” by the Austin Institute, a new academic initiative that conducts research on family, marriage and relationships (you can watch it below). I am quite leary about […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Jan 28th, 2014
The stores are awash in red and pink. It can only mean Valentine’s Day is upon us. There was a time when I looked forward to Valentine’s Day. True, it was about 50-some years ago, back when I was in elementary school in New York City, but it was a pretty darn exciting day plus […]
Posted in Aging, Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Jan 15th, 2014
Here’s what’s happened in the past year — two girlfriends have gotten engaged, and one has her condo on the market and is looking with her boyfriend to buy a new place and move in together. They are all 50-something, empty-nesters and divorced. Who says middle-aged women can’t find love again? I call BS. And […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Sep 24th, 2013
I had to create security questions for online banking this week — no biggie, right? — but as I scrolled through my choices, I was somewhat taken aback. Three of the seven questions I could choose from assumed I was married, wanting to know where I went on my honeymoon, what my spouse’s middle name […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes, Weddings on Aug 13th, 2013
There must be something really wrong with me. Whenever I hear people say that they “can’t afford to get married,” I am left scratching my head and dumbfounded — admittedly not my best look. Getting married is not expensive, but a wedding can be. The first time I married, our wedding — an admittedly hippie […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Jul 2nd, 2013
It has been 10 years since my (second) divorce, and while in some ways my life became harder and in other ways easier, there was one thing I hadn’t anticipated about being suddenly single at midlife — freedom. Well, I’m not exactly “free”; my boys were 9 and 12 at the time, so they lived […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Fathers, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Singles on May 28th, 2013
I was at a party, the kind where bosoms, booze and mouths overflowed. There wasn’t much happening with my bosom, but my then-husband’s mouth was going for it. “You know,” he said to my dearest friend, “I like being married but living like I’m single.” When she shared that with me the next day we […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Children, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Singles, Women, Work on Apr 1st, 2013
I have been following the kerfuffle over Susan Patton’s letter in the Daily Princetonian, in which the former Princeton grad and mom to two Princeton-educated sons advises Princeton women to nab a hubby on campus before they graduate: “Princeton women, we have almost priced ourselves out of the market … you will never again be surrounded […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Singles, Women on Mar 11th, 2013
As some of you know, Susan Pease Gadoua and I are co-writing The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels (and just snagged a literary agent, so things are really looking promising!) While it’s essential to talk about reinventing marriage to get the marriage you want, here’s an interesting question to ask […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Singles on Jan 14th, 2013
“So, what are you and ‘J’ going to do?” a friend asked recently. ‘J’ is my boyfriend and we do a lot of things, some of which are not appropriate to discuss publicly. “What do you mean?” “Are you ever going to get married or live together or something like that?” Oh, that question. It’s […]
