A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Children, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Mar 19th, 2013
The HuffPo had a piece today on the double standard on weight gain for spouses. A woman had written to an advice columnist about how fat and lazy her longtime partner — whom she also describes as “intelligent, accomplished, emotionally mature, kind, loving, and funny” — had become, only to be told, “I’m sick, sick, […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Singles, Women on Mar 11th, 2013
As some of you know, Susan Pease Gadoua and I are co-writing The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels (and just snagged a literary agent, so things are really looking promising!) While it’s essential to talk about reinventing marriage to get the marriage you want, here’s an interesting question to ask […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Marriage on Feb 25th, 2013
“How would your marriage be different if you had been handed an honest, comprehensive guide on what to expect after the wedding?” That’s the question Sheryl Paul asks in her article “Premarital Wisdom: The Truth About Marriage” in the Huffington Post Weddings section this week. On the surface that sounds like a cool thing. Really, […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Feb 19th, 2013
One of the best parts of the online world is reading comments section. In the past, readers of traditional media wouldn’t be able to have much of a say unless they wrote a letter to the editor (and even that was no guarantee it would get published). So, I enjoyed reading the 390 comments to […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Women on Feb 12th, 2013
It happened to Kris Humphries, it happened to Tom Cruise and it happens to people like you and me. Being blindsided by divorce. It seems odd — how can a spouse have absolutely no clue that his or her marriage is in trouble? Wouldn’t there be warning signs — a lack of interest in sex, […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage on Feb 5th, 2013
I had the pleasure of interviewing Daniel Smith last week in advance of his visit to Marin. Smith is the author of Monkey Mind, a painfully honest an extremely funny account of what it’s like to live with debilitating anxiety and its destructive absurdities. In it, he describes how he lost and then won back […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Jan 30th, 2013
I’ve been reading the blogs and writings of other divorcees for some time now and one thing is clear — not all divorcees are created equal. Some still seem so bitter and angry at their former spouse; they’re still pointing fingers at him even if they’re many years past into their divorce. Am I the […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Singles on Jan 14th, 2013
“So, what are you and ‘J’ going to do?” a friend asked recently. ‘J’ is my boyfriend and we do a lot of things, some of which are not appropriate to discuss publicly. “What do you mean?” “Are you ever going to get married or live together or something like that?” Oh, that question. It’s […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage on Jan 7th, 2013
I’m really happy I’m not in my 20s and looking for love in 2013. It’s not that I love being middle-aged (although I’ve accepted it and am aging as gracefully as I can). It’s just that I remember when things were, well, different. I’m old enough to remember when a guy asked you out on […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Sex, Stereotypes on Dec 31st, 2012
If all goes well, Crystal Harris and Hugh Hefner will be wed tonight, New Year’s Eve. I know what many people — perhaps even you — are thinking. She’s 26, he’s 86, and let’s not pretend that a 60-year-difference in age doesn’t mean something. For some, it means Harris is a gold-digger, for some it […]
