A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Jun 17th, 2014
I have to admit that when this Google “divorce” alert came into my email inbox, I kinda smiled: “Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin ‘consciously re-coupling’ as they cool divorce plans.” I don’t know why I smiled; I’m actually a bit horrified that I did. I know divorce isn’t always horrible, especially if you can consciously uncouple […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women on Jun 2nd, 2014
I have been hesitant to jump on the #YesAllWomen bandwagon, the hashtag and social media movement that arose in the wake of the horrific killings in Isla Vista last week. Yes, the 22-year-old killer was full of hatred for women, but he was also mentally ill and privileged and so it’s way too complicated to […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on May 27th, 2014
Adultery. What shall we do with it? Most just wish it would go away, and others — like myself — wonder what the high percentages of infidelity say about the institution of marriage. So I was intrigued by two interesting articles that appeared in the Philosopher’s Mail. Part one talks about the pleasures of adultery: […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Relationships on May 19th, 2014
Do Millennial men want to marry? A Time article, “Debunking the Myth of the Slippery Bachelor,” declared men want to marry as much as women do, according to a study of 5,200 people 21- to 65-plus years old. The standout were men ages 25 to 49 — they were less inclined to get hitched than […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on May 12th, 2014
Are we supposed to be with one person all our life, a recent HuffPost article asked. While not condoning infidelity, author Lisa Haisha wonders if “adultery may be inevitable,” especially since we live longer than ever before. As she writes: (I)n the course of a long term relationship, taking into account the practical realities of […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Gender, Love, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women on May 5th, 2014
Actress Kirsten Dunst, who graces the cover of Harper’s Bazaar UK this month, caused quite the kerfuffle recently when she expressed how she she feels about being a woman. “I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued. We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Apr 29th, 2014
So, People magazine’s two-time Sexiest Man Alive George Clooney is evidently engaged. It shouldn’t be such a big deal — just another celeb tying the knot, right (well, except for broken hearts everywhere)? But Clooney isn’t just a celeb; he has represented an old-fashioned myth that persists even today — the perpetual bachelor. When I […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Love, Relationships on Apr 21st, 2014
When Andrew Dice Clay announced that he was divorcing his third wife, Valerie Silverstein, recently, I had to do a double-take on his reason: “The word ‘marriage’ was putting a pressure on our relationship and since we filed, we’ve been more in love and have had more respect for each other than ever before.” OK, maybe […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women on Apr 14th, 2014
There are lots of different reasons why couples call it quits but no matter how or why, all divorced people have one thing in common — being asked, “So, why did you get divorced?” It isn’t necessarily a bad question: sometimes the answer helps people gauge their own relationships. Often, the answer illuminates the divorced […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Apr 8th, 2014
Loss. There’s been so much of it lately it’s become my most despised four-letter word. The death of my mother in 2010 and my father last year, resulting in the loss of contact with my only sibling (this is probably a healthy loss, however, but a loss nonetheless), the loss of an eight-year relationship late […]
