A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Apr 30th, 2019
The workplace today is not suited for anyone who has kids or who has to caregive. It’s especially hard for women, who generally do the caretaking.
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Gender, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Dec 4th, 2018
When I wed for the second time, my hubby and I knew we wanted to have kids. We agreed that we wanted someone to be at home, and since he was older and much more established in his career than I was, we decided he’d be the breadwinner and I’d be the homemaker. Still, I […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Expectations, Family, Live Apart Together, Marriage, Relationships, Weddings, Wife, Women on Nov 28th, 2017
The big news this week was the announcement that Prince Harry and girlfriend Meghan Markle became engaged and are planning to marry in the spring. Although some may say her prince has come, theirs is no fairy-tale romance — Markle is a thoroughly out-of the-box modern bride. At 36, she’s older than her husband-to-be, who’s […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Mar 14th, 2017
Scarlett Johansson recently declared in a Playboy interview that monogamy wasn’t natural, which may or may not be why she’s divorcing her husband of barely two years, Romain Dauriac. The couple have a child together, 2-year-old Rose, and according to news reports, it appears as if they are heading toward a nasty custody battle. None […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Wife, Women on Feb 14th, 2017
Oh, Suzanne Venker. Your marriage was in trouble. You admit that your “alpha ways were bumping up against” your husband’s “alpha nature,” that you were “like two bulls hanging out in the same pen together, and there was too much friction.” So you decided you needed to become more feminine because it worked in your […]
Posted in Caregiving, Coupledom, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 3rd, 2017
There’s an odd thing that happens whenever women write about how marriage is a better deal for men than women — men want to argue that we’re wrong. Marriage is bad for men, then say and then they back up their arguments by talking about … divorce. They complain that women get alimony, or spousal […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marital plan, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Work on Nov 15th, 2016
When my second hubby and I married, we knew we wanted to be parents. We were both working in the newspaper industry — meaning we weren’t wealthy — but because we both agreed that we wanted someone to be home to raise the kids. Since he was older and more established in his career (and […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 8th, 2016
It’s a familiar story — a talented but tortured man, consumed by drugs or booze or demons or womanizing or all of the above, is told by his woman: “It’s me or your partying.” And just like that, he cleans up his act and starts putting her and their family first. Then they live happily […]
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Relationships, Women on Jul 26th, 2016
You’ve consciously coupled. You and your spouse discussed everything from money to sex to children to in-laws to household chores. Maybe you even read The New I Do (hey, an author can dream, right?). I applaud you and support you. Still, I’ll bet there’s something you didn’t discuss, and it’s not because you’re oblivious. You’re […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Gender, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Relationships, Wife, Work on Jun 14th, 2016
A few years ago a woman wrote to me out of the blue. She had been reading this blog and saw me as a woman who “got” it. What did I get? The right for women invest in their own life and not put a husband’s needs and wants over hers. A successful business- woman […]
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