A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Caregiving, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Wife, Women on Jan 10th, 2017
I’m not one to live in regrets. My feeling is, if I’m happy where I am right now then everything before this point, good and bad, got me here. That’s good enough. But every once and a while, I come across the “what I wish I knew before ….” articles, including ones on “what I […]
Posted in Caregiving, Coupledom, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 3rd, 2017
There’s an odd thing that happens whenever women write about how marriage is a better deal for men than women — men want to argue that we’re wrong. Marriage is bad for men, then say and then they back up their arguments by talking about … divorce. They complain that women get alimony, or spousal […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Dec 21st, 2016
I grew up watching Disney films, from Cinderella to Snow White to Fantasia to Mary Poppins. I loved all of them, dressed as a princess or ballerina on many a Halloween and … well, I think it stops there. As a young girl, I never thought — or expected — a handsome prince would rescue […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships on Dec 13th, 2016
Let’s face it — there’s no way to divorce-proof a marriage. You know it and I know it even if so-called marriage “experts” tell you there is. As I’ve written before, you can’t control another person’s behaviors and therefore if your spouse wants out, he or she is going to get out. That’s how it […]
Posted in Beauty, Dating, Expectations, Millennials, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Dec 6th, 2016
I’m probably late to the party on this, but evidently millennials aren’t having much sex. Blame it on porn, blame it on hookup culture, blame it on the number of 20-somethings still living it home — maybe it’s all of that or some of that or none of that. Or maybe it’s something different. Like […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Nov 28th, 2016
The news that Melania Trump will live apart from her husband, President-elect Donald Trump for a few months until their son Barron, 10, finished school, was shocking to many people. While it may seem odd that a married couple doesn’t live together, the Trumps’ decision to live apart is actually part of a growing trend […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marital plan, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Work on Nov 15th, 2016
When my second hubby and I married, we knew we wanted to be parents. We were both working in the newspaper industry — meaning we weren’t wealthy — but because we both agreed that we wanted someone to be home to raise the kids. Since he was older and more established in his career (and […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 8th, 2016
It’s a familiar story — a talented but tortured man, consumed by drugs or booze or demons or womanizing or all of the above, is told by his woman: “It’s me or your partying.” And just like that, he cleans up his act and starts putting her and their family first. Then they live happily […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Infidelity, Men, Mothers, Relationships, Sex on Oct 18th, 2016
There you are, finally pregnant, getting the nursery ready and looking forward to your new role as Mom and — bam, your husband cheats on you. Wonderful. At least that’s what happened to Katie Price, one of the stars of the British daytime TV show Loose Women. Not only did hubby Kieran Hayler cheat on […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Friends, Love, Relationships on Aug 9th, 2016
I’ve long been a fan of the writings of Meg-John Barker, a psychology lecturer and sex and gender therapist whose book, Rewriting the Rules, is a must-read for those who question the romantic love script most of us tend to follow as if it’s the only path available to us. So I was not surprised […]
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