Posted in Aging, Consensual nonmonogamy, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles on Aug 28th, 2018
Four years ago, I explored dating at midlife, which has proven to be one of my more popular posts. Four years ago — when I was four years younger than I am now, sigh — I noted that a number of my 50-something, empty-nester, divorced female friends had happily found love again. Some cohabited. Some […]
Read Full Post »
You’re a popular gamer who has millions of fans on your Twitch channel, where people watch you play video games (yeah, it’s a thing), in this case, “Fortnite Battle Royale,” and you make a crapload of money doing that, but there are some people you just won’t play with — women. Say what? I am […]
Read Full Post »
“What is it that stops young women from having as much sexual agency as they should have, which includes being able to say no when you want to and yes when you want to?” Laura Kipnis told me when I interviewed her not long after her book, Unwanted Advances: Sexual Paranoia Comes to Campus was […]
Read Full Post »
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Infidelity, Marital plan, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Millennials, Needs, Parenting, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Jul 31st, 2018
While divorce isn’t nearly the 50 percent of all marriages we’ve been lead to believe, there’s one group that has seen the rate of divorce skyrocket — boomers, or those aged 50 and older, aka gray divorce. OK, great, but if you’re not a boomer, does it even matter? Well, yeah. Because even if you’re […]
Read Full Post »
What do Cardi B, Justin Bieber, Miley Cyrus, Joe Jonas and Ariana Grande have in common — besides music? They all have recently married or gotten engaged, and they are all 25 years old or younger. Wait — haven’t we been reading forever about how millennials are delaying marriage, pushing the age of the first […]
Read Full Post »
If you’re a woman of any dateable age, you have probably heard some version of this: have fun with the bad boys but marry the good guy. Women are constantly told we should want good guys, nice guys, and really — who doesn’t want a good guy? But what if he’s a good guy but […]
Read Full Post »
Posted in Aging, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Singles on Jul 10th, 2018
When my first marriage ended and I spent several years as a single woman in my mid- to late-20s, contentedly dating but not meeting any kind of man I’d want to partner with — OK, it was Miami in the ’80s so maybe it was a Miami thing — I remember thinking, well, I just […]
Read Full Post »
There are many myths about marriage and there’s a lot of bad advice about marriage, but one thing is true: modern marriages would benefit from relationship contracts. So I was truly surprised to read an article by John Gottman and Christopher Dollard of the Gottman Institute, Five myths about marriage, claiming it’s a myth that […]
Read Full Post »
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Weddings on May 22nd, 2018
Even if you weren’t glued to the TV to watch the wedding of Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, even if you managed to avoid the hype in the months before it and even if you don’t buy into the fairy-tale wedding thing — and this is certainly a real-life “my prince has come” story — […]
Read Full Post »
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Happiness, Marriage, Mothers, Needs, Parenting, Relationships on May 8th, 2018
We are coming up on Mother’s Day and I am reflecting on my life as a mom and here’s what I’ve come to realize — I was a bad mother. Not to my two boys (well, they’ll have to be the judge of that but, hey, that’s what shrinks are for), but to myself. For […]
Read Full Post »
Loading tweets...
