A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jun 23rd, 2014
Do you owe your spouse sex? If you stop having sex with your spouse, is he or she justified in having an affair? And isn’t the denial of sex just as much as a betrayal as infidelity? These were some questions raised in a few interesting blog posts, some as responses to reader comments, on […]
Posted in Family, Friends, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Singles on Jun 10th, 2014
He or she has stuck by you during your most trying times, makes chicken soup when you are sick, takes you to lots of fun events, listens and offers advice when you’re confused, gives you a shoulder to cry on when you were sad, understands you like no one else does. Who is that person? […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on May 27th, 2014
Adultery. What shall we do with it? Most just wish it would go away, and others — like myself — wonder what the high percentages of infidelity say about the institution of marriage. So I was intrigued by two interesting articles that appeared in the Philosopher’s Mail. Part one talks about the pleasures of adultery: […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Relationships on May 19th, 2014
Do Millennial men want to marry? A Time article, “Debunking the Myth of the Slippery Bachelor,” declared men want to marry as much as women do, according to a study of 5,200 people 21- to 65-plus years old. The standout were men ages 25 to 49 — they were less inclined to get hitched than […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on May 12th, 2014
Are we supposed to be with one person all our life, a recent HuffPost article asked. While not condoning infidelity, author Lisa Haisha wonders if “adultery may be inevitable,” especially since we live longer than ever before. As she writes: (I)n the course of a long term relationship, taking into account the practical realities of […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Love, Relationships on Apr 21st, 2014
When Andrew Dice Clay announced that he was divorcing his third wife, Valerie Silverstein, recently, I had to do a double-take on his reason: “The word ‘marriage’ was putting a pressure on our relationship and since we filed, we’ve been more in love and have had more respect for each other than ever before.” OK, maybe […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women on Apr 14th, 2014
There are lots of different reasons why couples call it quits but no matter how or why, all divorced people have one thing in common — being asked, “So, why did you get divorced?” It isn’t necessarily a bad question: sometimes the answer helps people gauge their own relationships. Often, the answer illuminates the divorced […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, LGBT, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Singles on Apr 1st, 2014
I am not a single mom — I’m a divorced coparenting mom who has had 50-50 joint physical custody, and even that has had its share of challenges. When I think of single parents by choice, I shudder a bit. I just can’t imagine beginning responsible for a baby or child 24/7 all by myself […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Mar 26th, 2014
The news this week was that actress Gwyneth Paltrow and Coldplay front man Chris Martin are splitting, or as they put it “conscious uncoupling.” In a joint statement, the couple that married in 2003 said: “We are parents first and foremost, to two incredibly wonderful children and we ask for their and our space and […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Friends, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Mar 11th, 2014
Your friend tells you he’s getting divorced. You’re shocked because he and his wife always seemed like the perfect couple. You’re worried for them and their young kids, and their divorce causes you to reflect about a lot of things you’ve observed about marriage. You know enough from your own parents’ divorce how unhappy things […]
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