A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Women on Feb 12th, 2013
It happened to Kris Humphries, it happened to Tom Cruise and it happens to people like you and me. Being blindsided by divorce. It seems odd — how can a spouse have absolutely no clue that his or her marriage is in trouble? Wouldn’t there be warning signs — a lack of interest in sex, […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Jan 30th, 2013
I’ve been reading the blogs and writings of other divorcees for some time now and one thing is clear — not all divorcees are created equal. Some still seem so bitter and angry at their former spouse; they’re still pointing fingers at him even if they’re many years past into their divorce. Am I the […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Sex, Stereotypes on Dec 31st, 2012
If all goes well, Crystal Harris and Hugh Hefner will be wed tonight, New Year’s Eve. I know what many people — perhaps even you — are thinking. She’s 26, he’s 86, and let’s not pretend that a 60-year-difference in age doesn’t mean something. For some, it means Harris is a gold-digger, for some it […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Sex on Dec 10th, 2012
It seems whenever anyone talks about divorce, the C word comes up — commitment. The problem with couples today, the typical comment goes, is that they just don’t know what commitment means. OK, so what does commitment in a marriage mean? If you think it means something like declaring, “I like this relationship and I’m […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Singles, Stereotypes on Nov 26th, 2012
We’re down one big family get-together with a few more to go for 2012, and I’m guessing many 20- and 30-somethings were asked something along the lines of this: “So, are you still single?” With more singles than ever, a 50 percent or so divorce rate, a tenfold increase in cohabitation and a growing number […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Midlife, Singles on Oct 23rd, 2012
“Do you think you’d still be married if all the bad stuff hadn’t happened?” a friend asked me recently. “Uh, I don’t know,” I answered after a few minutes. It’s true, I don’t really know. I’d like to believe that in what would be 14 years into our marriage, we still would be. I certainly thought […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting on Oct 9th, 2012
There’s a lot of hand-wringing about the 50 percent (give or take) divorce rate and the damage that it does to children. Most of us agree that divorce isn’t something that should be entered into lightly — especially if we have young kids — but most of us believe it needs to be an option […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Oct 2nd, 2012
There was Big! Marriage! News! over the weekend — actress Anne Hathaway got married (and evidently “all we’ve been able to talk about today” is her look) and the New York Times took a crack at marriage contracts (which, as you may know, is among the ideas Susan Pease Gadoua and I are presenting in our […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Stereotypes on Sep 24th, 2012
I was married for 14 years. The marriage produced two amazing young men. Nine years ago, it ended in divorce, and their dad and I have co-parented well. Please don’t call my marriage a failed marriage. A friend recently called me to task on why I am so resistant to calling a marriage that ends […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage on Aug 14th, 2012
I’ve been known to say inappropriate things but I’ve worked hard to be mindful in certain situations. So when a neighbor told me the reason there was a “For Sale” sign outside his house — he and his wife, parents of three, were divorcing — I’m not sure who was more shocked about what came […]
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