A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Aug 6th, 2019
There are many ways to end a marriage lovingly and kindly, not only to your soon-to-be former spouse, but also to yourself.
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Divorce, Expectations, Friends, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on May 21st, 2019
Could we ever move beyond our romantic-sexual connection to our spouse or former spouse and just connect on a deeper intimacy that brought us together in the first place?
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Love, Marital plan, Men, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 11th, 2018
When Mandy Len Catron wrote about her relationship contract with her partner in the New York Times’ Modern Love, it get a lot less love than her earlier and much-read Modern Love essay on the 36 questions that can lead you to fall in love with anyone, which led to her charming and insightful book, […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Needs, Politics, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 13th, 2018
On the surface, it would be hard to find a more picture-perfect healthy, happy marriage — especially an uber-public marriage — than Michelle and Barack Obama’s. Despite the temptation to compare our romantic relationships with the curated happy relationships we often see on Instagram and Facebook — and some of us are guilty of that […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Sex on Sep 11th, 2018
A few weeks ago, I heard from Christina Hoff Sommers and Danielle Crittenden, creators of the Femsplainers podcast, who kindly asked me to join them for Season Two and talk about reshaping marriage a la The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels. And so I did. Sommers, the author of five […]
Posted in Love, Marriage, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Aug 14th, 2018
Maybe you are hip to such things as blockchain, bitcoin and cryptocurrency. I am not, so when I recently discovered that there was a blockchain marriage, I knew I had to try to understand, what the heck does a blockchain marriage even mean? Well, it’s a marriage that’s a heck of a lot like the […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Sex on Jun 26th, 2018
Dear Ann: Help! My partner and I purchased a robot to care for our two boys, 2 and 4. We both liked the Ingrid model for her sweet face and pleasant disposition, with a Waldorf-like approach to child rearing. Plus, she easily managed to do some light housekeeping chores, turning into a game with the […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Marriage, Millennials, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Jun 5th, 2018
There are many myths about marriage and there’s a lot of bad advice about marriage, but one thing is true: modern marriages would benefit from relationship contracts. So I was truly surprised to read an article by John Gottman and Christopher Dollard of the Gottman Institute, Five myths about marriage, claiming it’s a myth that […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships on May 29th, 2018
Actor Hugh Grant got married last week to his longtime partner, Swedish television producer Anna Eberstein, the first time the father of five has tied the knot. He’s 57. That in and of itself is not weird — more couples are having children outside of marriage and many “perpetual bachelors” marry later in life, as […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships on May 15th, 2018
If your marriage makes it to the 20th year — when you’re likely at midlife — you’ll either be the happiest you’ve been in your marriage, according to a new study, or you’ll be heading to divorce court, as so many 50 and older people have been doing in recent years, either happily — if […]
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