A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on May 16th, 2017
Your spouse mentions that you haven’t had sex in weeks. You’re not really in the mood but, hey, it has been a long time and you just don’t want to get into a thing about sex — again — so you give in. The person you’ve been seeing for a few weeks asks you to […]
Posted in Aging, Expectations, Love, Men, Politics, Relationships, Women on May 9th, 2017
Emmanuel Macron made history this past weekend — at 39, he’s the youngest man to be elected president of France. While many might applaud that, as well as his centrist policies over the nationalistic views of his former opponent, Marine Le Pen, others were astonished by the 25-year age gap between Macron and his wife, […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Love, Millennials, Relationships, Sex on May 2nd, 2017
I don’t often get nostalgic or feel thankful that I grew up when I did because things were better back then. But I just finished reading two books about what’s happening on college campuses now — American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus by sociologist Lisa Wade and Unwanted Advances: Sexual Paranoia Comes […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Heartbreak, Parenting, Relationships on Apr 25th, 2017
Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook’s chief operating officer and founder of Lean In, experienced the kind of grief some of us already know and what most married people will likely know — the sudden death of a spouse. Her husband, Dave, died of cardiac arrhythmia while they were on a Mexican vacation in 2015, and Sandburg had […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes on Apr 18th, 2017
Back when my New I Do co-author and I were doing research for our book and interviewing engaged couples about why they wanted to wed (most were already living together), one groom-to-be mentioned sex among the many reasons. “You want to marry for sex?” his fiancee asked, somewhat horrified. He immediately got sheepish as he […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on Apr 4th, 2017
What would you be willing to do to have an affair-proof marriage? Would you go so far as Vice President Mike Pence, whose agreement with his wife, Karen — both evangelical Christians — became public last week? The Washington Post reported, “In 2002, Mike Pence told the Hill that he never eats alone with a […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Mar 14th, 2017
Scarlett Johansson recently declared in a Playboy interview that monogamy wasn’t natural, which may or may not be why she’s divorcing her husband of barely two years, Romain Dauriac. The couple have a child together, 2-year-old Rose, and according to news reports, it appears as if they are heading toward a nasty custody battle. None […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Politics, Relationships, Sex on Feb 21st, 2017
I’ll admit it — I was not happy that Donald Trump became our 45th president. Give him a chance, many said, and I was willing to do that. But as he began surrounding himself with racists and bigots, and as one dangerous nominee after another was confirmed and one important program after another was dismantled, […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Wife, Women on Feb 14th, 2017
Oh, Suzanne Venker. Your marriage was in trouble. You admit that your “alpha ways were bumping up against” your husband’s “alpha nature,” that you were “like two bulls hanging out in the same pen together, and there was too much friction.” So you decided you needed to become more feminine because it worked in your […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Feb 7th, 2017
If we are to take the new 60 Minutes/Vanity Fair poll on marriage to heart, then Americans are still stuck in some sort of happily-ever-after rom-com version of wedded bliss. But like a lot of polls, the ways questions are phrased, what gets asked and what doesn’t, and who gets asked and who doesn’t have […]
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