A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Sex on Jan 27th, 2015
We were fortunate to have been asked to be on The Better Show to talk about The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels with co-hosts JD Roberto and Kristina Behr. We spoke with them first, and then had a conversation with Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher, co-owners of the matchmaking service […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Marriage, Parenting on Nov 13th, 2014
Say what you will about Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s “conscious uncoupling” or Jewel and Ty Murray’s “thoughtful and tender undoing,” but if they lived in Oklahoma, they’d be forced to kowtow to legislators who think they know what’s better for couples than the couples themselves. As of Nov. 1, Oklahoma’s married couples with children […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Sex on Oct 14th, 2014
Look at any website or magazine geared toward women and you’ll most likely see advice from “experts” — everything from “9 Ways to Save Your Marriage” to “10 Marriage Rules You Should Break” to “21 Secrets to a Happy Marriage” — to prevent a marriage from sliding into complacency and perhaps divorce. The secrets, tips, […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Sex on Sep 29th, 2014
Susan Pease Gadoua’s and my book is finally out (yay!), and for those of you who are curious what we’re talking about, her’s a nifty flowchart that our publisher Seal Press put together. There are many more arrows that could connect the dots (or bubbles, as it were), such as a Parenting Marriage connecting to […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Single parents, Women on Sep 22nd, 2014
Recently, the Brookings Institute published “The Marriage Effect: Money or Parenting?” — a report that looks into what matters more for children’s well-being — having married parents, being in a financially stable family or parents with good parenting skills. While the report acknowledges that marriage promotion efforts haven’t worked, marriage does seem to offer some […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Millennials, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Weddings on Sep 10th, 2014
Last week, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie tied the knot — or finally tied the knot if you’re a follower of pop culture websites or mags. While they didn’t follow the typical trajectory — meet, date, fall in love, become a committed couple, move in together, wed, have kids — they ended up in the […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Men, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Aug 19th, 2014
Recently, there was an article on the HuffPost that I found somewhat disturbing. A newly divorced mom who admits she married young — 21 and just out of college — to a man with mental challenges. They eventually divorced with young children and now she has to co-parent with him as former spouses. If co-parenting […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women, Work on Aug 12th, 2014
You love your life, you love your spouse and you’re thinking about adding a baby into the mix because you love the idea of having a child with your beloved. No problem, right? Right … depending on your gender, something Rebecca Onion addresses so beautifully in her Slate article: I’m willing to allow that being […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Jul 8th, 2014
Here’s how most of us who are thinking about leaving our marriage imagine divorce will be like: We’ve had it with our partner (or perhaps he’s decided the same about us and casts us aside, but let’s just say we’re the ones who want out and let’s say we’re the woman because women ask for […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Jun 17th, 2014
I have to admit that when this Google “divorce” alert came into my email inbox, I kinda smiled: “Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin ‘consciously re-coupling’ as they cool divorce plans.” I don’t know why I smiled; I’m actually a bit horrified that I did. I know divorce isn’t always horrible, especially if you can consciously uncouple […]
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