A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Gender, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Relationships, Wife, Work on Jun 14th, 2016
A few years ago a woman wrote to me out of the blue. She had been reading this blog and saw me as a woman who “got” it. What did I get? The right for women invest in their own life and not put a husband’s needs and wants over hers. A successful business- woman […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Family, Parenting, Relationships on May 17th, 2016
A few weeks ago the New York Post brought the concept of bird nesting back into our consciousness, but it wasn’t until Kelly Ripa brought it up as a taunt on Live with Kelly and Michael that people began to take notice. Bird nesting — when children stay in the family home and the parents […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Parenting, Relationships on May 3rd, 2016
Is there a backlash against mothers and kids? It sure seems that way lately. Two weeks ago I suggested that childfree people support the family leave recently passed by San Francisco and New York City. That didn’t go over too well with a vocal childfree group on Facebook led by a woman whom I have […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Family, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Women on Apr 26th, 2016
We’re coming up on Mother’s Day, and that means the “mother as hero” rhetoric typically heats up. I have the utmost respect and compassion for parents. As a mom, a single divorced mom, I know how hard a job parenting is. It’s harder than anything I have ever done and probably ever will do. That […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Fathers, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Apr 19th, 2016
I was standing in line at the grocery store this weekend when I watched a paramedic truck and a fire truck pull up to the front. In hurried about five men, and I watched as they began talking and administering to a boy, around 13- to 15-years-old, who was seated at the front of the […]
Posted in Children, Family, Gender, Parenting, Relationships, Singles, Women, Work on Apr 12th, 2016
This probably has been a hard week for childfree people. San Francisco just approved six weeks of fully paid parental leave, coming on the heels of New York City’s law requiring up to 12 weeks of partially paid time off for new parents and California Gov. Jerry Brown boosting paid-family leave benefits. Well, hey, wonderful, you […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Mar 22nd, 2016
For some, the big news this week was that President Obama was in Cuba or the latest mishegas from Donald Trump, but in certain circles, the big news was about divorce. More men and women are against divorce, according to a new poll, which came out right around the time that actress Jennifer Garner said […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Women on Feb 23rd, 2016
When I divorced the first time, in my 20s, there were a few people who were upset — my former husband and me, naturally, as well as our parents. Beyond that? Nope. How different a reality than when I divorced the second time. Was it because I was then middle-aged, and people worried about what […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Women on Feb 2nd, 2016
When I said “I do” the second time, at age 32, I knew what this marriage was about — kids. We both said we wanted to have a child, maybe two (my preference), and we talked about what that might mean for us financially. We were both journalists at the time — not big income […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Marriage, Relationships, Single parents on Dec 29th, 2015
There has been a lot of hand-wringing about single mothers and the rise of children being born outside of marriage nowadays. About a third of children in the U.S. live with an unmarried parent, according to the Pew Research Center — 34 percent, up from 9 percent in 1960 and 19 percent in 1980. While […]
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