A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Gender, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Relationships, Wife, Work on Jun 14th, 2016
A few years ago a woman wrote to me out of the blue. She had been reading this blog and saw me as a woman who “got” it. What did I get? The right for women invest in their own life and not put a husband’s needs and wants over hers. A successful business- woman […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Parenting, Relationships on May 3rd, 2016
Is there a backlash against mothers and kids? It sure seems that way lately. Two weeks ago I suggested that childfree people support the family leave recently passed by San Francisco and New York City. That didn’t go over too well with a vocal childfree group on Facebook led by a woman whom I have […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Family, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Women on Apr 26th, 2016
We’re coming up on Mother’s Day, and that means the “mother as hero” rhetoric typically heats up. I have the utmost respect and compassion for parents. As a mom, a single divorced mom, I know how hard a job parenting is. It’s harder than anything I have ever done and probably ever will do. That […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Fathers, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Apr 19th, 2016
I was standing in line at the grocery store this weekend when I watched a paramedic truck and a fire truck pull up to the front. In hurried about five men, and I watched as they began talking and administering to a boy, around 13- to 15-years-old, who was seated at the front of the […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Women on Feb 23rd, 2016
When I divorced the first time, in my 20s, there were a few people who were upset — my former husband and me, naturally, as well as our parents. Beyond that? Nope. How different a reality than when I divorced the second time. Was it because I was then middle-aged, and people worried about what […]
Posted in Aging, Expectations, Gender, Midlife, Relationships, Stereotypes, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 26th, 2016
Women are more depressed and anxious than men. Why? Because we don’t make as much money as men do, researchers say. According to the study: among women whose income was lower than their male counterparts, the odds of major depression were nearly two-and-a-half times higher, and odds of anxiety were more than four times higher, […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Marriage, Relationships, Single parents on Dec 29th, 2015
There has been a lot of hand-wringing about single mothers and the rise of children being born outside of marriage nowadays. About a third of children in the U.S. live with an unmarried parent, according to the Pew Research Center — 34 percent, up from 9 percent in 1960 and 19 percent in 1980. While […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Marriage, Mothers, Relationships on Dec 22nd, 2015
Ben Affleck’s mom is unhappy. According to news reports, Christine Boldt supports Jennifer Garner’s willingness to reconcile, and is advising her son to get his act together and try counseling as a way to work through their marital problems. While I’m sure Boldt means well — as a mom myself, we always mean well — […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Dec 8th, 2015
Does divorce really set a child’s life on the path to ruin? Is it better if parents stay “for the kids,” even if they no longer love each other? This has been much debated by academics, therapists and others. How do we know for sure how divorce impacts a child, if it even does at […]
Posted in Expectations, Gender, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 3rd, 2015
Halloween is over, which means it’s a rapid slide into the holidays — Thanksgiving to Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa leading into New Year’s. Instead of considering the last two months of the year the most wonderful time of the year, many people consider it the most stressful time of the year. Especially women. It starts with Thanksgiving, our […]
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