A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes, Wife, Women on May 31st, 2016
According to New York magazine, women are cheating as men as men. The article cites some studies indicating that in the past two decades, the percentage of hubbys admitting to cheating hasn’t changed, but the percentage of wives fessing up rose almost 40 percent. Call me cynical, but why is this news to anyone? For […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Stereotypes on May 24th, 2016
Years ago, I was a cliche — I was the Other Woman. I was in my 20s and working with someone whom I liked as a coworker and whom I found attractive. I don’t recall how the conversation started, but somehow he convinced me that he and his wife were only staying together until their […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Love, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes on May 10th, 2016
When the U.S. Supreme Court ruled last year that same-sex couples could marry no matter which state they lived in, many believed it would open the door to polyamorous marriage — marriage among three or more people. “I don’t think it’s going to be as far in the future as people think,” a confident Robyn […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Mar 29th, 2016
Perhaps you remember the memorable words spoken by then-President Bill Clinton: “I did not have sexual relations with that woman.” “That woman” was White House intern Monica Lewinsky, with whom Clinton later acknowledged having an “improper physical relationship.” At the time, there was discussion over what an “improper physical relationship” actually meant (as well as […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Midlife, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 5th, 2016
We all “know” that women aren’t good at casual sex, “only” have affairs for love, are biologically disinterested in sex, and that, more so than men, “need” and thrive in a monogamous relationship. Maybe that’s been your experience, maybe not. Maybe you believe it, maybe you don’t. But have you ever questioned if this is […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Oct 20th, 2015
I have been thinking about security lately, not in an Ashley Madison hack kind of way, but the way we seek security in romantic relations and what we gain — and give up — to have it. It was spurred by watching Vicky Cristina Barcelona again, the 2008 Woody Allen movie that explores the very […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Aug 25th, 2015
The Ashley Madison hack is still topic No. 1 in the media — from divorce attorneys predicting a “Christmas in July” boon to their business, to potential extortion threats and suicides because of the sensitive information leaked, to continued shaming of those whose names were found on the site’s database — and it doesn’t look […]
Posted in Beauty, Expectations, Infidelity, Men, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes on Aug 4th, 2015
Should you ever hire a beautiful woman? That seems to be the issue behind some of the discussion around allegations that Ben Affleck has been dating — or at least having inappropriate meetings — with Christine Ouzounian, the nanny who has been taking care of the three children he and Jennifer Garner have together. When […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jul 21st, 2015
I imagine this week’s news — that AshleyMadison.com, the website that encourages affairs, was hacked — has caused a certain amount of angst among the website’s 37 million-plus subscribers, many of whom are married or in committed relationships. Infidelity relies on secrecy, and with hackers demanding that the website and and its partner site, Established […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jun 16th, 2015
There’s been a lot of discussion about “sexless” marriages, many focusing on how to define “sexless. Honestly, I don’t want to have to turn to a so-called “expert” or another couples’ definition of sexless — I want to determine if my relationship is sexless based on whether my sexual needs, and those of my partner, […]
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