A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Consensual nonmonogamy, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 7th, 2020
Here’s one way older women can get the sex they crave while also giving themselves a healthy boost — practicing consensual non-monogamy.
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Nov 20th, 2018
It’s almost Thanksgiving, the beginning of the holiday season and the kick off of “engagement season.” The pressures around the holidays make many of us unhappy, and even if we’re generally OK with our situations — partnered or not — it’s hard not to buy into the whole “most wonderful time of the year” thing. […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Men, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Oct 30th, 2018
#MeToo stories have been dominating the news for the past year, and many men are exploring their own behavior toward women and what masculinity means to them — all necessary discussions. Women, men are finally beginning to understand, have sexual agency. But based on a discussion I had with a 52-year-old man I had just […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Women on Sep 18th, 2018
For many years everything I read and heard, and thus believed, is that women aren’t good at casual sex, only have affairs for love, eventually become disinterested in sex and do best in monogamous relationships. OK, but my lived experience proved otherwise. True, I’ve been a serial monogamist, which I interpret as being pretty good […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Sex on Sep 11th, 2018
A few weeks ago, I heard from Christina Hoff Sommers and Danielle Crittenden, creators of the Femsplainers podcast, who kindly asked me to join them for Season Two and talk about reshaping marriage a la The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels. And so I did. Sommers, the author of five […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Aug 7th, 2018
“What is it that stops young women from having as much sexual agency as they should have, which includes being able to say no when you want to and yes when you want to?” Laura Kipnis told me when I interviewed her not long after her book, Unwanted Advances: Sexual Paranoia Comes to Campus was […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Jul 3rd, 2018
I’ve had sex on my mind lately. From the rise of incels to a call for the redistribution of sex to the lack of sex among millennials to the claim that women over 50 are having the Best Sex Ever — ahem and amen — can you blame me? But mostly I am constantly reminded about the […]
Posted in Expectations, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jun 19th, 2018
They were crazy in love in the beginning, but in the past few years, we’ve learned a lot more about Beyoncé and Jay-Z’s marriage, from Beyoncé’s allegations of Jay-Z’s infidelities in her 2016 album Lemonade to Jay-Z’s confession and remorse in his 2017 album 4:44, which seemingly led to a reconciliation not long after Beyoncé […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships on May 29th, 2018
Actor Hugh Grant got married last week to his longtime partner, Swedish television producer Anna Eberstein, the first time the father of five has tied the knot. He’s 57. That in and of itself is not weird — more couples are having children outside of marriage and many “perpetual bachelors” marry later in life, as […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, LGBT, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Apr 3rd, 2018
Actress Anna Faris is divorcing her second husband, Chris Pratt, and is now wondering what the heck is the purpose of marriage anyway. In a recent conversation on Dax Shepard’s Armchair Expert podcast, Faris said: I need to figure out what the purpose is. Is it safety for your children? Is it convention? Is it so […]
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