A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Sep 5th, 2017
It’s an old saying but most of us have heard it — “Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?” That’s a phrase that’s both dated and sexist, so to hear it re-branded as “cheap sex” — aka casual sex — and purported to be the reason men aren’t committing and […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Aug 22nd, 2017
At some point, women recognize that they have sexual power. Often, it happens before we’re ready to have it — we develop breasts at a young age, for instance, and we’re clueless about what that does to boys and men. It’s both scary and exciting, but often more scary than not — until we know […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Gender, Men, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Singles, Women on Aug 15th, 2017
Who has the upper hand in dating, men or women? It might depend on whom you ask but there’s one thing I’ve been thinking about lately — how gals generally don’t have as much experience with rejection when it comes to dating as men do, although it may feel like it if they’ve been dumped, […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Love, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Jul 25th, 2017
Many people made fun of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s conscious uncoupling a few years ago. But it’s evident that they have influenced a number of other newly divorced celebrity parents who are raising kids together to put aside their anger and differences and come together for their family. (Sienna Miller even admits to doing […]
Posted in Expectations, Gender, Men, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Stereotypes, Women, Work on Jul 18th, 2017
A lot of people made fun of Mike Pence in April when it was revealed that the Vice President won’t eat alone with any other woman than his wife, Karen, or even attend events where alcohol is served unless she’s there, too. Others thought, oh well — that’s just evangelical Christians for you. It would seem […]
Posted in Beauty, Dating, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Singles, Women on Jul 11th, 2017
I was sitting next to two women and hearing snippets of their conversation. The married one was uncertain and disillusioned in her marriage, full of complaints about her husband. It seemed as if he couldn’t do much of anything right: he didn’t do his share of housework or childcare, he always seemed to know when […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Love, Relationships on Jun 20th, 2017
Perhaps you grew up loving fairy tales, where the beautiful princess ends up living happily ever after with a handsome prince. Maybe you watch rom-coms where the guy and girl end up together despite impossible odds. Maybe you’re addicted to The Bachelor or The Bachelorette and what happens to the lucky couples. When love stories […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Jun 13th, 2017
In a brilliant essay in the New York Times this past weekend, “America Made Me a Feminist,” former supermodel Paulina Porizkova wrote about how women are treated around the world, or at least the countries she’s lived in, and in America. Moving to France after living in Sweden for a number of years, where women […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships on May 30th, 2017
I’ve been married and divorced twice, but when I divorced the first time — in my 20s, with no children — I never paid attention to any articles about reinventing myself as a divorcee. Not to say that there weren’t articles about that; perhaps there were but this was in the days before the internet […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Relationships, Sex on May 23rd, 2017
“Is an open marriage a happier marriage,” a recent New York Times magazine cover story written by Susan Dominus asked. With a headline and topic like that, of course it went viral — as if no one ever considered that consensual nonmonogamy has existed for decades and, yes, it might actually be a good thing […]
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