A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Caregiving, Divorce, Expectations, Gender, Happiness, LGBT, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Stereotypes, Wife, Women on Feb 18th, 2020
It’s 2020 — guys, it’s time for you to do your share of the domestic duties. It shouldn’t have to be said — again — but yet here we are. In the same week that marriage historian Stephanie Coontz wrote how hetero marriages could learn a lot from same-sex couples when it comes to equality, […]
Posted in Expectations, Friends, Gender, LGBT, Men, Relationships, Stereotypes on Oct 22nd, 2019
As soon as I got the Airbnb inquiry from a man to rent the bedroom in my house for one night so he and his (unnamed) friend could take part in a race early the next day, I had a gut reaction. I’ve had experience with friends sharing an Airbnb before. “To be clear,” I […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Gender, Men, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women on Sep 17th, 2019
Recently, Ryan Stephens — a self-proclaimed “father, voracious reader, strategist, optimistic contrarian” — asked on Twitter, “How do you help transform your son into a good man?” and then detailed bullet points he and his wife, Alaina, follow based on a post on their Dialed in Men blog. So, I questioned whether being a good […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes, Women on Sep 3rd, 2019
Recently, I was asked why my former husband cheated on me. I hadn’t really been asked that before although I certainly have talked openly about his affair — how it impacted me, our kids, our marriage, etc., etc. But why he had an affair? That was a new one, so I had to think, all […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Millennials, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Wife on Feb 19th, 2019
It’s easy to see why marriage feels scary for Justin and Hailey Bieber. But it’s not marriage per se that’s scary — it’s the idea of marriage as an “until death” commitment that’s scary. And who is taking on more of the scary stuff.
Posted in Beauty, Expectations, Men, Midlife, Politics, Relationships, Sex, Women on Dec 18th, 2018
Russian agent Maria Butina used age-old seduction — flattery and flirtation, and playing to the desires of powerful older men — to attempt to influence U. S. policy. What do so many men, who have so much to lose, fall sway to young babes?
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Gender, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Dec 4th, 2018
When I wed for the second time, my hubby and I knew we wanted to have kids. We agreed that we wanted someone to be at home, and since he was older and much more established in his career than I was, we decided he’d be the breadwinner and I’d be the homemaker. Still, I […]
Posted in Caregiving, Expectations, Gender, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 27th, 2018
Marriage makes people healthy. Or at least that’s what we are constantly told, according to studies that pop up from time to time. While singles advocate Bella dePaulo frequently writes articles debunking those studies, now a new study indicates that, well, she may be both right and wrong. Marriage does help in keeping some people […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Needs, Politics, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 13th, 2018
On the surface, it would be hard to find a more picture-perfect healthy, happy marriage — especially an uber-public marriage — than Michelle and Barack Obama’s. Despite the temptation to compare our romantic relationships with the curated happy relationships we often see on Instagram and Facebook — and some of us are guilty of that […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Men, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Oct 30th, 2018
#MeToo stories have been dominating the news for the past year, and many men are exploring their own behavior toward women and what masculinity means to them — all necessary discussions. Women, men are finally beginning to understand, have sexual agency. But based on a discussion I had with a 52-year-old man I had just […]
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