A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Oct 16th, 2018
I don’t know about you, but watching Christine Blasey Ford’s testimony before Congress about how Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh had sexually assaulted her when they were in high school, and his subsequent confirmation nevertheless, has made me furious and wondering, why. Why are women considered second class when we clearly are just about half — […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Marriage, Needs, Parenting, Relationships on Oct 9th, 2018
Beautiful Boy is hitting the movie theaters next week, a film based on the best-selling books by father and son David and Nic Sheff. It’s a heart wrenching look at addiction — extremely timely, as overdoses are now the leading cause of death of Americans under the age of 50. But the back story is […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Weddings on Oct 2nd, 2018
Gwyneth Paltrow married for the second time, to Brad Falchuk, this past week, after her 11-year marriage to Chris Martin famously consciously uncoupled in 2014. Paltrow is now 46; this marriage won’t be about having children together — she has two with Martin and Falchuk, 47, has two from his 10-year marriage to Suzanne Bukinik, […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Women on Sep 18th, 2018
For many years everything I read and heard, and thus believed, is that women aren’t good at casual sex, only have affairs for love, eventually become disinterested in sex and do best in monogamous relationships. OK, but my lived experience proved otherwise. True, I’ve been a serial monogamist, which I interpret as being pretty good […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Sex on Sep 11th, 2018
A few weeks ago, I heard from Christina Hoff Sommers and Danielle Crittenden, creators of the Femsplainers podcast, who kindly asked me to join them for Season Two and talk about reshaping marriage a la The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels. And so I did. Sommers, the author of five […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Marriage, Mothers, Politics, Relationships on Sep 4th, 2018
This past week, the country mourned for U.S. Sen. John McCain, who died Aug. 25 at age 81. He was lauded by Barack Obama, Joe Biden and others as a hero, a friend, a voice of reason, an “extraordinary man.” While I didn’t necessarily agree with McCain’s politics, I agree that he was a man […]
Posted in Love, Marriage, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Aug 14th, 2018
Maybe you are hip to such things as blockchain, bitcoin and cryptocurrency. I am not, so when I recently discovered that there was a blockchain marriage, I knew I had to try to understand, what the heck does a blockchain marriage even mean? Well, it’s a marriage that’s a heck of a lot like the […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Aug 7th, 2018
“What is it that stops young women from having as much sexual agency as they should have, which includes being able to say no when you want to and yes when you want to?” Laura Kipnis told me when I interviewed her not long after her book, Unwanted Advances: Sexual Paranoia Comes to Campus was […]
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Infidelity, Marital plan, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Millennials, Needs, Parenting, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Jul 31st, 2018
While divorce isn’t nearly the 50 percent of all marriages we’ve been lead to believe, there’s one group that has seen the rate of divorce skyrocket — boomers, or those aged 50 and older, aka gray divorce. OK, great, but if you’re not a boomer, does it even matter? Well, yeah. Because even if you’re […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Jul 24th, 2018
What do Cardi B, Justin Bieber, Miley Cyrus, Joe Jonas and Ariana Grande have in common — besides music? They all have recently married or gotten engaged, and they are all 25 years old or younger. Wait — haven’t we been reading forever about how millennials are delaying marriage, pushing the age of the first […]
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