A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Stereotypes, Women on Apr 24th, 2012
A few of us were talking about men — a favorite subject — when Alec Baldwin’s name came up. The 54-year-old “30 Rock” actor is engaged to Hilaria Thomas, who’s 28. “It isn’t fair,” lamented one beautiful, brilliant 50-something friend who’s single and would love to find a partner. “We all know what those marriages […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 9th, 2012
It’s been a tumultuous weekend, to say the least. One of my kids is angry at me, my BF and I had a huge fight and when I went to go cry it all out at my mother’s grave, I discovered that the rocks and other things I’d left on her tombstone were gone — removed, […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 2nd, 2012
Because of the book project I’m working on The New I Do, I had heard from Melissa of The Long Haul Project, a young couple who, “on a journey to save our marriage,” have been meeting married couples around the globe and recording their secrets to marital happiness. So I read through their blog and […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Singles on Mar 26th, 2012
I’m back to thinking about marriage again. I know; it’s like I have a one-track mind but in doing research for The New I Do, I pretty much have to (nice excuse, right?) With all the negative things we hear about marriage — from sexless, loveless marriages to the high rate of infidelity to the […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Uncategorized on Mar 19th, 2012
Like many, I was surprised when Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins had split back in 2009. They seemed like a pretty solid couple, although they’re celebrities so who really knows. But I was more surprised by her recent statement that their parting made her “feel like a failure.” We like to believe that relationships will last […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Children, Dating, Divorce, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Women on Mar 12th, 2012
When I asked a friend recently how she’s doing, she paused and answered, “I keep wondering if this is all there is.” She, like me, is 50-something and like many 50-somethings we are empty-nesters or about to be empty-nesters; we’re either 20-something years into a marriage or divorced. We’re in the so-called “midlife crisis” years, […]
Posted in Divorce, Family, Marriage, Parenting on Mar 5th, 2012
He’s the son of an alcoholic, she’s the daughter of a Holocaust survivor — can this marriage be saved? In my case, no, but why should our familial backgrounds even matter? Because they do, a lot. Infidelity, abuse, addiction, drug abuse — those of frequently cited as issues that lead to divorce. Never mind all […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting on Feb 28th, 2012
As you probably know if you’ve seen my writing on Huffington Post, Facebook, Twitter or this blog, Susan Pease Gadoua and I are collaborating on a book about reimaging marriage, which we’re calling, The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels. So, of course, I have been researching marriage and thinking about […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage on Feb 2nd, 2012
Tall, dark, attractive, blue-eyed, blond, intelligent, athletic, funny, fit, shapely — certain traits turn us on when it comes to finding someone to love. But with couples breaking up all the time and a 50 percent or so divorce rate, those traits mean little when it comes to what really matters — finding someone who […]
It’s the era of The Single. New York University sociologist Eric Klinenberg’s new book, Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone, which arrives next week, is getting a lot of buzz. Why? As Klinenberg points out in an article in Fortune magazine (adapted from his book): Only 51% of adults today are […]
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