A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Love, Relationships on Apr 21st, 2014
When Andrew Dice Clay announced that he was divorcing his third wife, Valerie Silverstein, recently, I had to do a double-take on his reason: “The word ‘marriage’ was putting a pressure on our relationship and since we filed, we’ve been more in love and have had more respect for each other than ever before.” OK, maybe […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women on Apr 14th, 2014
There are lots of different reasons why couples call it quits but no matter how or why, all divorced people have one thing in common — being asked, “So, why did you get divorced?” It isn’t necessarily a bad question: sometimes the answer helps people gauge their own relationships. Often, the answer illuminates the divorced […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Apr 8th, 2014
Loss. There’s been so much of it lately it’s become my most despised four-letter word. The death of my mother in 2010 and my father last year, resulting in the loss of contact with my only sibling (this is probably a healthy loss, however, but a loss nonetheless), the loss of an eight-year relationship late […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, LGBT, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Singles on Apr 1st, 2014
I am not a single mom — I’m a divorced coparenting mom who has had 50-50 joint physical custody, and even that has had its share of challenges. When I think of single parents by choice, I shudder a bit. I just can’t imagine beginning responsible for a baby or child 24/7 all by myself […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Mar 26th, 2014
The news this week was that actress Gwyneth Paltrow and Coldplay front man Chris Martin are splitting, or as they put it “conscious uncoupling.” In a joint statement, the couple that married in 2003 said: “We are parents first and foremost, to two incredibly wonderful children and we ask for their and our space and […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Friends, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Mar 11th, 2014
Your friend tells you he’s getting divorced. You’re shocked because he and his wife always seemed like the perfect couple. You’re worried for them and their young kids, and their divorce causes you to reflect about a lot of things you’ve observed about marriage. You know enough from your own parents’ divorce how unhappy things […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships on Feb 18th, 2014
The death of actor Philip Seymour Hoffman recently was shocking and sad. The news that he was evidently involved with another woman before his sudden death from a heroin overdose was just as sad, but perhaps not shocking. He leaves behind three kids he had with his long-time girlfriend Mimi O’Donnell, who may or may not […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Work on Feb 11th, 2014
A neighbor and I were chatting recently and as we told each other what was in store for the day, she mentioned she was heading to the farmers market. “Nothing better than some fresh veggies,” I said. “That, and oogling the hot farmers,” she said, without missing a beat and with a big grin. I’ve […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Relationships, Sex on Feb 5th, 2014
I recently saw the movie “Her,” and while it isn’t the best movie I’ve ever seen, it is pretty much at the top when it comes to raising fascinating questions: what it means to be human, what we mean when we talk about love and intimacy, what sex is, and yes, how we can be […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Jan 28th, 2014
The stores are awash in red and pink. It can only mean Valentine’s Day is upon us. There was a time when I looked forward to Valentine’s Day. True, it was about 50-some years ago, back when I was in elementary school in New York City, but it was a pretty darn exciting day plus […]
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