A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Feb 17th, 2015
You were in love. It didn’t work out. You split. Then one day something happens — maybe your parent dies or you get sick or you realize you’re tired of the dating game at midlife — and you start thinking, “I want my ex back.” No worries because there are thousands of “proven techniques” on […]
Posted in Aging, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships, Sex on Feb 2nd, 2015
Aging is OK, given the alternative. But when my nine-year relationship ended about a year ago and I threw myself back into the dating world again, a thought crossed my mind from time to time — will I ever find love again? Not marriage or someone to live with necessarily, because I’m not sure I […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Sex on Jan 27th, 2015
We were fortunate to have been asked to be on The Better Show to talk about The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels with co-hosts JD Roberto and Kristina Behr. We spoke with them first, and then had a conversation with Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher, co-owners of the matchmaking service […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Jan 20th, 2015
I was honored to be able to present some of the research on how marriage is changing that Susan Pease Gadoua and I unearthed while writing The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels before a group of therapists recently. As has been true in the many years I have been a […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Stereotypes, Wife, Women on Jan 13th, 2015
As many have wondered why Camille Cosby continues to stand by her husband, Bill, in the wake of so many allegations of sexual abuse — including me — the comedian recently was defended by the woman who played his TV wife, Phylicia Rashad. And so was Camille. “This is a tough woman, a smart woman,” […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Dec 30th, 2014
The year is almost over and a new one is upon us. I’m not big on the belief that a year can be a good or bad one — “2014 sucked so 2015 must be better!” It’s an artificial construct. Nor am I big on making resolutions; most of the time we just set ourselves […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Dec 23rd, 2014
I am a big fan of Grammy-award-winning musician Marc Cohn and usually catch his shows whenever he’s in the Bay Area. So I was saddened to hear that after his wife of 12 years, TV news anchor Elizabeth Vargas, had entered rehab — again — late last year the couple, parents to two boys, 11 […]
Posted in Expectations, Gender, LGBT, Marriage, Men, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Dec 15th, 2014
The news certainly seemed disheartening for any woman hoping to have an egalitarian partnership. According to Harvard Business School, which recently released the results of a survey that examined the career paths of 25,000 alumni, the women grads expected that their marriages would be egalitarian. But the men? They seem to have known all along […]
Posted in Aging, Divorce, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Women on Dec 8th, 2014
We all know the tired stereotype — that older men prefer to marry younger women. Case in point, the newly married George Clooney, 53, and Amal, 36. But he’s fabulously wealthy and handsome — surely not every man can attract a younger babe. Except, many do. A new Pew study indicates that 20 percent of […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Wife, Women on Dec 1st, 2014
Earlier this week, Angelina Jolie said marriage to Brad Pitt has changed her for the better, inspiring her to “be a better wife. I’m going to learn to cook.” It was a curious thing to say — is being a cook what “good wives” do? Maybe, for Angelina. But I’m not sure it answers the […]
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