A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Gender, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Relationships, Wife, Work on Jun 14th, 2016
A few years ago a woman wrote to me out of the blue. She had been reading this blog and saw me as a woman who “got” it. What did I get? The right for women invest in their own life and not put a husband’s needs and wants over hers. A successful business- woman […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Jun 7th, 2016
Why do you date? If you’re like most people, it’s most likely because you’re hoping to never have to date again — which means you find someone special to settle down with and be a committed, loving couple and perhaps even wed. What other purpose would there be to going through all the time, energy […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes, Wife, Women on May 31st, 2016
According to New York magazine, women are cheating as men as men. The article cites some studies indicating that in the past two decades, the percentage of hubbys admitting to cheating hasn’t changed, but the percentage of wives fessing up rose almost 40 percent. Call me cynical, but why is this news to anyone? For […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Stereotypes on May 24th, 2016
Years ago, I was a cliche — I was the Other Woman. I was in my 20s and working with someone whom I liked as a coworker and whom I found attractive. I don’t recall how the conversation started, but somehow he convinced me that he and his wife were only staying together until their […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Renewable marriage on Apr 5th, 2016
This week, there were two stories that addressed the “happily-ever-after” version of marriage many of us expect, or at least want to believe. Actress Drew Barrymore and her third husband, art consultant Will Kopelman, are divorcing after two children and three years of marriage. At the same time, a Maine couple were being honored for […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Mar 29th, 2016
Perhaps you remember the memorable words spoken by then-President Bill Clinton: “I did not have sexual relations with that woman.” “That woman” was White House intern Monica Lewinsky, with whom Clinton later acknowledged having an “improper physical relationship.” At the time, there was discussion over what an “improper physical relationship” actually meant (as well as […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Mar 22nd, 2016
For some, the big news this week was that President Obama was in Cuba or the latest mishegas from Donald Trump, but in certain circles, the big news was about divorce. More men and women are against divorce, according to a new poll, which came out right around the time that actress Jennifer Garner said […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Weddings on Mar 15th, 2016
Recently I read an article that stated that getting married is not an accomplishment. Natalie Brooke — who is engaged to be married — bemoans the fact that once she got a ring on her finger, that’s all people wanted to talk about — not the many real accomplishments (her education, career, etc.) she’s had. […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Single parents, Women on Mar 8th, 2016
Despite being born and raised Jewish, I am agnostic and therefore don’t spend too much time thinking about religion. Even in my research on marriage and divorce, when I come upon studies on how religion and prayer may influence marriages, I tend to ignore them. So do a lot of other liberal media — and […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Women on Feb 23rd, 2016
When I divorced the first time, in my 20s, there were a few people who were upset — my former husband and me, naturally, as well as our parents. Beyond that? Nope. How different a reality than when I divorced the second time. Was it because I was then middle-aged, and people worried about what […]
Loading tweets...
