A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 8th, 2016
It’s a familiar story — a talented but tortured man, consumed by drugs or booze or demons or womanizing or all of the above, is told by his woman: “It’s me or your partying.” And just like that, he cleans up his act and starts putting her and their family first. Then they live happily […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Nov 1st, 2016
Monogamous marriage is unromantic. Not my words but the words of actor Hugh Grant while promoting the movie Florence Foster Jenkins. As he told radio host Howard Stern: I can see the lovely aspect if you marry exactly the right person — your best friend and it’s cozy and it’s lovely. But, people make so […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Oct 4th, 2016
Affairs have suddenly popped up in the national conversation, and honesty — who doesn’t like a good open discussion about the dishonesty of infidelity? OK, well maybe it’s just me … Former New York mayor Rudy Giuliani, a pal of Donald Trump’s, recently suggested in a conversation slamming Hillary Clinton about Bill Clinton’s affairs that […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Relationships on Sep 20th, 2016
None of us wed thinking we’ll get divorced. Oh sure, most of us are aware that divorce is an option, but not for all, whether for religious beliefs, a desire to make it work no matter what (commitment being a commitment), fear of “failing” or perhaps good ol’ stubbornness. And then, stuff happens. Stuff happened […]
Posted in Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex on Sep 13th, 2016
I am not a fan of the self-help industry nor of most so-called relationship “experts.” Whenever people start spewing what someone should or shouldn’t do, I get nervous. Who can tell us what’s right or wrong for us? That said, some people often make sense in sharing their stories of their missteps and what they […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Aug 30th, 2016
I am feeling it for Huma Abedin. Just yesterday, Abedin — vice chairwoman of Hillary Clinton’s 2016 presidential campaign — announced that she is separating from her husband, Anthony Weiner, who resigned from Congress in 2011 and lost a bid to be mayor of New York City in 2013, both times because of sexting scandals. […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Aug 23rd, 2016
Let’s say you’re in a long-term marriage, one that’s pretty satisfying. You love your spouse, your spouse loves you, but you have a lot of things on your plate — work and kids and other things — and you’ve lost your sexual mojo. Would you tell your spouse, “Please have sex with someone else?” That’s […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, LGBT, Marriage, Relationships on Aug 16th, 2016
I know I’ve written about celebs from time to time, but just to be clear, I don’t think anyone should ever look to celebs as marital models — even long-term couples like Jeff Bridges and Kevin Bacon. So it was interesting to discover that Beyoncé Knowles and Kanye West are evidently making marriage “cool” again, […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Friends, Love, Relationships on Aug 9th, 2016
I’ve long been a fan of the writings of Meg-John Barker, a psychology lecturer and sex and gender therapist whose book, Rewriting the Rules, is a must-read for those who question the romantic love script most of us tend to follow as if it’s the only path available to us. So I was not surprised […]
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Relationships, Women on Jul 26th, 2016
You’ve consciously coupled. You and your spouse discussed everything from money to sex to children to in-laws to household chores. Maybe you even read The New I Do (hey, an author can dream, right?). I applaud you and support you. Still, I’ll bet there’s something you didn’t discuss, and it’s not because you’re oblivious. You’re […]
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