A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Family, Infidelity, Men, Sex, Women on Nov 13th, 2012
As the details of CIA director David Petraeus’ affair with his biographer Paula Broadwell have slowly unfolded since the retired four-star general announced his resignation last week, it appears to be turning into a bad made-for-TV-drama about a jealous lover with just a touch of “what did she know and when did she know it?” […]
It’s a sad story although that’s not how it started off. They met, they fell in love, they married, they were ridiculously happy in that “How do we even deserve this?” kind of way. Then he got called to serve in Iraq. And he went; it’s what he signed up to do, and he was […]
Pablo Sandoval was the man this week when the San Francisco Giants third baseman hit three home runs in Game 1 of the World Series, leading to his being named the MVP on Sunday when the Giants swept the Detroit Tigers. His performance was a far cry from the Sandoval fans knew in 2010, the last […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Midlife, Singles on Oct 23rd, 2012
“Do you think you’d still be married if all the bad stuff hadn’t happened?” a friend asked me recently. “Uh, I don’t know,” I answered after a few minutes. It’s true, I don’t really know. I’d like to believe that in what would be 14 years into our marriage, we still would be. I certainly thought […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Women, Work on Oct 15th, 2012
Reading Laura Doyle’s HuffPost post, “6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is BS,” I recalled my own experience with marriage counseling as my marriage imploded. It was or miss — three couples’ counselors (the first was clearly clueless, the second was good but he didn’t like her, the third came too late), and one solo therapist (I […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting on Oct 9th, 2012
There’s a lot of hand-wringing about the 50 percent (give or take) divorce rate and the damage that it does to children. Most of us agree that divorce isn’t something that should be entered into lightly — especially if we have young kids — but most of us believe it needs to be an option […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Oct 2nd, 2012
There was Big! Marriage! News! over the weekend — actress Anne Hathaway got married (and evidently “all we’ve been able to talk about today” is her look) and the New York Times took a crack at marriage contracts (which, as you may know, is among the ideas Susan Pease Gadoua and I are presenting in our […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Stereotypes on Sep 24th, 2012
I was married for 14 years. The marriage produced two amazing young men. Nine years ago, it ended in divorce, and their dad and I have co-parented well. Please don’t call my marriage a failed marriage. A friend recently called me to task on why I am so resistant to calling a marriage that ends […]
With the publication of Hanna Rosin’s The End of Men, we are back to looking at things as men vs. women, a disturbing thought. (In fact. some female friends recently commented on my numerous pro-men columns; sure, I’ve written those, but being pro-men where there are injustices doesn’t mean I’m anti-women.) Whether you agree or […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Stereotypes on Sep 11th, 2012
I knew it: Anytime you talk about men and infidelity, people want to remind you that men aren’t the only ones who cheat. And they’re right. So of course my HuffPo story this week, The downside of being a stay-at-home dad?, based on my article here last week, Do stay-at-home-dads cheat more than other dads?, […]
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