A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Jan 15th, 2014
Here’s what’s happened in the past year — two girlfriends have gotten engaged, and one has her condo on the market and is looking with her boyfriend to buy a new place and move in together. They are all 50-something, empty-nesters and divorced. Who says middle-aged women can’t find love again? I call BS. And […]
Posted in Family, Friends, Infidelity, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 7th, 2014
You have a friend who is having an affair or is thinking about having one. What do you say? If you’re a woman, you just might encourage her. At least that’s the result of a recent study I stumbled upon. OK, granted — it’s a Ph.D dissertation and not published in a peer-reviewed journal. And, its […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Dec 30th, 2013
We’re on the cusp of a new year — are you making resolutions? How about being resolving to be happier in your marriage? Comedic author Jenna McCarthy (If It Was Easy They’d Call the Whole Damn Thing a Honeymoon: Living With and Loving the TV-Addicted, Sex-Obsessed, Not-So-Handy Man You Married) gives a TED talk that […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Dec 24th, 2013
Christmas is upon us and while I know not everyone celebrates, all of us can take part in the spirit of the season. So, I’d like to give anyone who stumbles upon this site a gift. But before I get to that, here’s the back story. I love my job for many reasons, but perhaps […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Dec 16th, 2013
Local gal Kate Schermerhorn, who made the wonderful documentary After Happily Ever After, has an interesting column in HuffPost weddings section this week — “What is love? Help wanted.” Of the 10 items she lists as what love is and isn’t, she says if she had to put a one-word soundbite on it, it would […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes, Women on Dec 10th, 2013
Despite societal myths about older women no longer mattering sexually, I have never met a midlife mom post-divorce who didn’t want to be appreciated and embraced as a sexual being. That’s not to say that there weren’t some women who were perfectly content to surrender their sexual identity to focus on raising their children or […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Dec 2nd, 2013
Oh, love! My co-author Susan Pease Gadoua’s article in Psychology Today, “Three reasons why you shouldn’t marry for love,” has hit a nerve. It had more than 111,000 hits in a week, and we have had dozens and dozens of emails from people in response, many who agree. What does that say about love and […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Fathers, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships on Nov 26th, 2013
How much does a mom or a dad owe his or her a child? Of course, parents should provide food, clothing, safety and love. But must a parent give up more of him or herself? Last week, “Fresh Air’s” Terry Gross looked at the personhood movement. If you don’t know much about it, you should: […]
Posted in Expectations, Relationships on Nov 18th, 2013
I’ve been busy interviewing couples for The New I Do recently who experimented with opening their marriage (these have been fun interviews!), and was struck by what one woman told me. Monogamy can be dangerous, she says, because if you’re unable to express your sexuality, express being attracted to other people and be able to […]
Posted in Beauty, Children, Expectations, Relationships on Nov 12th, 2013
Honesty is essential in a relationship. But just how honest should you be? That question is at the center of a rather curious legal suit that made the news last week. A Chinese man divorced his wife for giving birth to what he considers an ugly baby girl, sued her and — astonishingly — won! Believing […]
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