A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Marriage, Mothers, Politics, Relationships on Sep 4th, 2018
This past week, the country mourned for U.S. Sen. John McCain, who died Aug. 25 at age 81. He was lauded by Barack Obama, Joe Biden and others as a hero, a friend, a voice of reason, an “extraordinary man.” While I didn’t necessarily agree with McCain’s politics, I agree that he was a man […]
Posted in Aging, Consensual nonmonogamy, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles on Aug 28th, 2018
Four years ago, I explored dating at midlife, which has proven to be one of my more popular posts. Four years ago — when I was four years younger than I am now, sigh — I noted that a number of my 50-something, empty-nester, divorced female friends had happily found love again. Some cohabited. Some […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Millennials, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Aug 21st, 2018
You’re a popular gamer who has millions of fans on your Twitch channel, where people watch you play video games (yeah, it’s a thing), in this case, “Fortnite Battle Royale,” and you make a crapload of money doing that, but there are some people you just won’t play with — women. Say what? I am […]
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Infidelity, Marital plan, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Millennials, Needs, Parenting, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Jul 31st, 2018
While divorce isn’t nearly the 50 percent of all marriages we’ve been lead to believe, there’s one group that has seen the rate of divorce skyrocket — boomers, or those aged 50 and older, aka gray divorce. OK, great, but if you’re not a boomer, does it even matter? Well, yeah. Because even if you’re […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Jul 24th, 2018
What do Cardi B, Justin Bieber, Miley Cyrus, Joe Jonas and Ariana Grande have in common — besides music? They all have recently married or gotten engaged, and they are all 25 years old or younger. Wait — haven’t we been reading forever about how millennials are delaying marriage, pushing the age of the first […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Singles on Jul 10th, 2018
When my first marriage ended and I spent several years as a single woman in my mid- to late-20s, contentedly dating but not meeting any kind of man I’d want to partner with — OK, it was Miami in the ’80s so maybe it was a Miami thing — I remember thinking, well, I just […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Jul 3rd, 2018
I’ve had sex on my mind lately. From the rise of incels to a call for the redistribution of sex to the lack of sex among millennials to the claim that women over 50 are having the Best Sex Ever — ahem and amen — can you blame me? But mostly I am constantly reminded about the […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Sex on Jun 26th, 2018
Dear Ann: Help! My partner and I purchased a robot to care for our two boys, 2 and 4. We both liked the Ingrid model for her sweet face and pleasant disposition, with a Waldorf-like approach to child rearing. Plus, she easily managed to do some light housekeeping chores, turning into a game with the […]
Posted in Expectations, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jun 19th, 2018
They were crazy in love in the beginning, but in the past few years, we’ve learned a lot more about Beyoncé and Jay-Z’s marriage, from Beyoncé’s allegations of Jay-Z’s infidelities in her 2016 album Lemonade to Jay-Z’s confession and remorse in his 2017 album 4:44, which seemingly led to a reconciliation not long after Beyoncé […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Marriage, Millennials, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Jun 5th, 2018
There are many myths about marriage and there’s a lot of bad advice about marriage, but one thing is true: modern marriages would benefit from relationship contracts. So I was truly surprised to read an article by John Gottman and Christopher Dollard of the Gottman Institute, Five myths about marriage, claiming it’s a myth that […]
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