A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Love, Millennials, Relationships, Sex on May 2nd, 2017
I don’t often get nostalgic or feel thankful that I grew up when I did because things were better back then. But I just finished reading two books about what’s happening on college campuses now — American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus by sociologist Lisa Wade and Unwanted Advances: Sexual Paranoia Comes […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on Apr 4th, 2017
What would you be willing to do to have an affair-proof marriage? Would you go so far as Vice President Mike Pence, whose agreement with his wife, Karen — both evangelical Christians — became public last week? The Washington Post reported, “In 2002, Mike Pence told the Hill that he never eats alone with a […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Politics, Relationships, Sex on Mar 28th, 2017
Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner have evidently bounced back from a much-publicized “strained period” during which she almost filed for divorce. Affleck recently finished rehab in hopes of becoming a better father. They’re not back together, People reports, but a source described as close to Garner said the actress has backed off from filing for […]
Posted in Expectations, Live Apart Together, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships on Mar 21st, 2017
The secret to a happy marriage may mean living apart together in separate master suites, a recent Wall Street Journal article declared. Not everyone lives in a “4,700 square-foot Tudor home” or wants to, but without a doubt, more people, especially older people (like — *sigh* — me) are interested in having a room — […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Mar 14th, 2017
Scarlett Johansson recently declared in a Playboy interview that monogamy wasn’t natural, which may or may not be why she’s divorcing her husband of barely two years, Romain Dauriac. The couple have a child together, 2-year-old Rose, and according to news reports, it appears as if they are heading toward a nasty custody battle. None […]
Posted in Expectations, Relationships, Sex on Feb 28th, 2017
Gals, how are your orgasms? Maybe the better question is, are you having any? Women are experiencing an orgasm gap, evidently. Well, not all women — just hetero women. They’re behind every other group who’s happily getting off, including lesbians, bisexual men and women, hetero men and gay men, according to a new study. Hetero […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Politics, Relationships, Sex on Feb 21st, 2017
I’ll admit it — I was not happy that Donald Trump became our 45th president. Give him a chance, many said, and I was willing to do that. But as he began surrounding himself with racists and bigots, and as one dangerous nominee after another was confirmed and one important program after another was dismantled, […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Feb 7th, 2017
If we are to take the new 60 Minutes/Vanity Fair poll on marriage to heart, then Americans are still stuck in some sort of happily-ever-after rom-com version of wedded bliss. But like a lot of polls, the ways questions are phrased, what gets asked and what doesn’t, and who gets asked and who doesn’t have […]
Posted in Caregiving, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Wife, Women on Jan 10th, 2017
I’m not one to live in regrets. My feeling is, if I’m happy where I am right now then everything before this point, good and bad, got me here. That’s good enough. But every once and a while, I come across the “what I wish I knew before ….” articles, including ones on “what I […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships on Dec 13th, 2016
Let’s face it — there’s no way to divorce-proof a marriage. You know it and I know it even if so-called marriage “experts” tell you there is. As I’ve written before, you can’t control another person’s behaviors and therefore if your spouse wants out, he or she is going to get out. That’s how it […]
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