A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Gender, Men, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Stereotypes, Women, Work on Jul 18th, 2017
A lot of people made fun of Mike Pence in April when it was revealed that the Vice President won’t eat alone with any other woman than his wife, Karen, or even attend events where alcohol is served unless she’s there, too. Others thought, oh well — that’s just evangelical Christians for you. It would seem […]
Posted in Beauty, Dating, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Singles, Women on Jul 11th, 2017
I was sitting next to two women and hearing snippets of their conversation. The married one was uncertain and disillusioned in her marriage, full of complaints about her husband. It seemed as if he couldn’t do much of anything right: he didn’t do his share of housework or childcare, he always seemed to know when […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jul 4th, 2017
Jay-Z just released his latest album, 4:44, and it’s gathering the same buzz as the last record put out by his wife, Beyoncé — not just for the music, but because of what they’re talking about. In last year’s Lemonade, Beyoncé alluded to her husband’s alleged infidelity — remember that video showing Beyoncé’s sister Solange physically […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Marital plan, Relationships on Jun 27th, 2017
As a writer, nothing is more satisfying and affirming than when your writing positively impacts another person. Of course, the entire reason for writing The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels was to impact people — to make them think consciously about their romantic decisions. Which is why Mandy Len Catron’s […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Love, Relationships on Jun 20th, 2017
Perhaps you grew up loving fairy tales, where the beautiful princess ends up living happily ever after with a handsome prince. Maybe you watch rom-coms where the guy and girl end up together despite impossible odds. Maybe you’re addicted to The Bachelor or The Bachelorette and what happens to the lucky couples. When love stories […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Jun 13th, 2017
In a brilliant essay in the New York Times this past weekend, “America Made Me a Feminist,” former supermodel Paulina Porizkova wrote about how women are treated around the world, or at least the countries she’s lived in, and in America. Moving to France after living in Sweden for a number of years, where women […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Jun 6th, 2017
Recently, a dating coach for women got upset with me on social media. He works with clients who want to get married one day, and, as a happily married man himself, he thought some of the articles I’d written or tweeted are anti-marriage. What do I have against marriage, he wondered. Except here’s the truth: I […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships on May 30th, 2017
I’ve been married and divorced twice, but when I divorced the first time — in my 20s, with no children — I never paid attention to any articles about reinventing myself as a divorcee. Not to say that there weren’t articles about that; perhaps there were but this was in the days before the internet […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Relationships, Sex on May 23rd, 2017
“Is an open marriage a happier marriage,” a recent New York Times magazine cover story written by Susan Dominus asked. With a headline and topic like that, of course it went viral — as if no one ever considered that consensual nonmonogamy has existed for decades and, yes, it might actually be a good thing […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on May 16th, 2017
Your spouse mentions that you haven’t had sex in weeks. You’re not really in the mood but, hey, it has been a long time and you just don’t want to get into a thing about sex — again — so you give in. The person you’ve been seeing for a few weeks asks you to […]
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