A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting on Jun 11th, 2012
My son’s high school graduation last week was a sea of faces filled with a mix of joy, exhaustion, sadness and uncertainty — not just the 18-year-olds but their parents as well. As I looked around me, I wondered how many married couples, a good portion about to be empty-nesters, would still be married for […]
Posted in Divorce, Family, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Women on May 14th, 2012
I consider myself pretty lucky that when I divorced, my former spouse and I were civil enough — or maybe just too cheap! — to mediate and avoid lawyers and stay out of family court. And, we agreed that we would coparent 50-50, one week on, one week off. It hasn’t always been easy for any […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Women on May 7th, 2012
I enjoyed reading Barbara Risman’s take on the whole Mommy Wars thing, allegedly reignited by the Hilary Rosen-Ann Romney flap. Risman, the head of the sociology department at the University of Illinois at Chicago and the Council on Contemporary Families’ executive officer, called it a bunch of silliness, while acknowledging a truth (emphasis mine): (T)here […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 2nd, 2012
Because of the book project I’m working on The New I Do, I had heard from Melissa of The Long Haul Project, a young couple who, “on a journey to save our marriage,” have been meeting married couples around the globe and recording their secrets to marital happiness. So I read through their blog and […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Singles on Mar 26th, 2012
I’m back to thinking about marriage again. I know; it’s like I have a one-track mind but in doing research for The New I Do, I pretty much have to (nice excuse, right?) With all the negative things we hear about marriage — from sexless, loveless marriages to the high rate of infidelity to the […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Uncategorized on Mar 19th, 2012
Like many, I was surprised when Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins had split back in 2009. They seemed like a pretty solid couple, although they’re celebrities so who really knows. But I was more surprised by her recent statement that their parting made her “feel like a failure.” We like to believe that relationships will last […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Children, Dating, Divorce, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Women on Mar 12th, 2012
When I asked a friend recently how she’s doing, she paused and answered, “I keep wondering if this is all there is.” She, like me, is 50-something and like many 50-somethings we are empty-nesters or about to be empty-nesters; we’re either 20-something years into a marriage or divorced. We’re in the so-called “midlife crisis” years, […]
Posted in Divorce, Family, Marriage, Parenting on Mar 5th, 2012
He’s the son of an alcoholic, she’s the daughter of a Holocaust survivor — can this marriage be saved? In my case, no, but why should our familial backgrounds even matter? Because they do, a lot. Infidelity, abuse, addiction, drug abuse — those of frequently cited as issues that lead to divorce. Never mind all […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting on Feb 28th, 2012
As you probably know if you’ve seen my writing on Huffington Post, Facebook, Twitter or this blog, Susan Pease Gadoua and I are collaborating on a book about reimaging marriage, which we’re calling, The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels. So, of course, I have been researching marriage and thinking about […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Men, Parenting, Women on Feb 20th, 2012
I had the pleasure of interviewing Eve Ensler last week. She’s heading to town for an event this week, a conversation with Isabel Allende at Dominican University. An award-winning author and playwright (The Vagina Monologues, The Good Body) and creator of V-Day, which has raised some $70 million to fight violence against girls and women […]
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