A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Oct 2nd, 2012
There was Big! Marriage! News! over the weekend — actress Anne Hathaway got married (and evidently “all we’ve been able to talk about today” is her look) and the New York Times took a crack at marriage contracts (which, as you may know, is among the ideas Susan Pease Gadoua and I are presenting in our […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Stereotypes on Sep 24th, 2012
I was married for 14 years. The marriage produced two amazing young men. Nine years ago, it ended in divorce, and their dad and I have co-parented well. Please don’t call my marriage a failed marriage. A friend recently called me to task on why I am so resistant to calling a marriage that ends […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Stereotypes on Sep 11th, 2012
I knew it: Anytime you talk about men and infidelity, people want to remind you that men aren’t the only ones who cheat. And they’re right. So of course my HuffPo story this week, The downside of being a stay-at-home dad?, based on my article here last week, Do stay-at-home-dads cheat more than other dads?, […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Women, Work on Aug 28th, 2012
I have been thinking about Rupert Sanders’ wife of 10 years, Liberty Ross, which is weird because before the “scandalous” make-out session between Kristen Stewart and Sanders, I’d never heard of Sanders or Ross and (as the mom of boys, not girls) barely knew of Stewart and her — now-former — “Twilight” boyfriend, Robert Pattison. […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Infidelity, Men, Mothers, Singles, Women on Aug 21st, 2012
We all talk about how “hard” relationships are, and I’ll agree — they can be. But it’s interesting how we often make relationships hard because we don’t see how our own behaviors create dysfunction. I am observing a relatively new romance. One partner has a lot of long-time friends of the opposite sex, the other […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Sex on Jul 30th, 2012
The big infidelity news this week was a story about 22-year-old actress Kristen Stewart cheating on her boyfriend, Robert Pattinson, with married “Snow White and the Huntsman” director Rupert Sanders — if you even consider kissing and hugging cheating, which is all the tabloids caught them doing and all Stewart’s acknowledged. Still, it was enough […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Men, Sex, Women on Jul 23rd, 2012
In a few weeks I will become an empty-nester. Like most parents, I have a lot of emotions about that. My boys, a freshman and a junior, are on their way to being fully independent; it’s what we parents have been teaching our kids how to do from Day 1. We hope we’ve laid the […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Jul 2nd, 2012
No sooner did word get out that Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes were divorcing after five years of marriage than rumors of a marriage contract between them resurfaced. Judging by the comments people are leaving on websites like Huffington Post, etc., a marriage contract isn’t a “real” marriage (although a marriage license is just a […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jun 28th, 2012
“Why do people cheat?” I was asked by relationship activist Maryanne Comaroto on her radio shortly shortly after my interview with Eric Anderson and his study on why monogamy is failing men went a little ballistic with comments on the Huffington Post. I stumbled over my words with her because I don’t know why people […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Marriage, Men, Parenting, Stereotypes, Work on Jun 18th, 2012
For Father’s Day, I sent my dad — who lives in a nursing home in Florida, some 2,500 miles away — the obligatory card and called him. In the two-plus years since he fell, hit his head, got emergency brain surgery, almost died and miraculously recouped, I have a lot of time to reflect back […]
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