A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Family, Infidelity, Marriage, Sex, Stereotypes on Jan 22nd, 2013
At yesterday’s inaugural speech, President Obama strongly hinted that he may endorse marriage for gays and lesbians as an equal right under the Constitution: “Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law, for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Singles on Jan 14th, 2013
“So, what are you and ‘J’ going to do?” a friend asked recently. ‘J’ is my boyfriend and we do a lot of things, some of which are not appropriate to discuss publicly. “What do you mean?” “Are you ever going to get married or live together or something like that?” Oh, that question. It’s […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Sex, Stereotypes on Dec 24th, 2012
It’s Christmas and my friend’s child wants a pink bike. That’s not a problem — lots of companies make pink bikes. For girls. Her child is a boy. It’s hard being a boy who’s drawn to the color pink. Not that the kids see anything wrong with it – it’s just a color, after all. […]
When it comes to divorce, everyone is concerned about the kids. Not that everyone who divorces has kids, but we don’t seem to have as much angst about childfree couples as we do about those who have kids, especially young kids. For all our studies about how divorce impacts kids, ranging from doom and gloom […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Sex, Stereotypes, Women on Nov 19th, 2012
The very married Gen. David Petraeus had an affair with a younger woman and the very married Gen. John Allen may have sent inappropriate emails to a younger woman. Whenever powerful men stray, we turn wonder, what’s going on at home? So we turn our attention to the wronged wives, and guess what — Holly […]
Posted in Divorce, Family, Infidelity, Men, Sex, Women on Nov 13th, 2012
As the details of CIA director David Petraeus’ affair with his biographer Paula Broadwell have slowly unfolded since the retired four-star general announced his resignation last week, it appears to be turning into a bad made-for-TV-drama about a jealous lover with just a touch of “what did she know and when did she know it?” […]
It’s a sad story although that’s not how it started off. They met, they fell in love, they married, they were ridiculously happy in that “How do we even deserve this?” kind of way. Then he got called to serve in Iraq. And he went; it’s what he signed up to do, and he was […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Midlife, Singles on Oct 23rd, 2012
“Do you think you’d still be married if all the bad stuff hadn’t happened?” a friend asked me recently. “Uh, I don’t know,” I answered after a few minutes. It’s true, I don’t really know. I’d like to believe that in what would be 14 years into our marriage, we still would be. I certainly thought […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Women, Work on Oct 15th, 2012
Reading Laura Doyle’s HuffPost post, “6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is BS,” I recalled my own experience with marriage counseling as my marriage imploded. It was or miss — three couples’ counselors (the first was clearly clueless, the second was good but he didn’t like her, the third came too late), and one solo therapist (I […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting on Oct 9th, 2012
There’s a lot of hand-wringing about the 50 percent (give or take) divorce rate and the damage that it does to children. Most of us agree that divorce isn’t something that should be entered into lightly — especially if we have young kids — but most of us believe it needs to be an option […]
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