A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Family, Gender, Love, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women on May 5th, 2014
Actress Kirsten Dunst, who graces the cover of Harper’s Bazaar UK this month, caused quite the kerfuffle recently when she expressed how she she feels about being a woman. “I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued. We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Apr 29th, 2014
So, People magazine’s two-time Sexiest Man Alive George Clooney is evidently engaged. It shouldn’t be such a big deal — just another celeb tying the knot, right (well, except for broken hearts everywhere)? But Clooney isn’t just a celeb; he has represented an old-fashioned myth that persists even today — the perpetual bachelor. When I […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Love, Relationships on Apr 21st, 2014
When Andrew Dice Clay announced that he was divorcing his third wife, Valerie Silverstein, recently, I had to do a double-take on his reason: “The word ‘marriage’ was putting a pressure on our relationship and since we filed, we’ve been more in love and have had more respect for each other than ever before.” OK, maybe […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women on Apr 14th, 2014
There are lots of different reasons why couples call it quits but no matter how or why, all divorced people have one thing in common — being asked, “So, why did you get divorced?” It isn’t necessarily a bad question: sometimes the answer helps people gauge their own relationships. Often, the answer illuminates the divorced […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Apr 8th, 2014
Loss. There’s been so much of it lately it’s become my most despised four-letter word. The death of my mother in 2010 and my father last year, resulting in the loss of contact with my only sibling (this is probably a healthy loss, however, but a loss nonetheless), the loss of an eight-year relationship late […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, LGBT, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Singles on Apr 1st, 2014
I am not a single mom — I’m a divorced coparenting mom who has had 50-50 joint physical custody, and even that has had its share of challenges. When I think of single parents by choice, I shudder a bit. I just can’t imagine beginning responsible for a baby or child 24/7 all by myself […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Mar 26th, 2014
The news this week was that actress Gwyneth Paltrow and Coldplay front man Chris Martin are splitting, or as they put it “conscious uncoupling.” In a joint statement, the couple that married in 2003 said: “We are parents first and foremost, to two incredibly wonderful children and we ask for their and our space and […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Love, Relationships, Stereotypes on Mar 18th, 2014
My The New I Do coauthor Susan Pease Gadoua and I gave a workshop on dating at the Marin Teen Girls conference this past Saturday, and the room was packed. Fifty high school girls had gathered and they had questions. Lots of questions, smart questions, about sex and friendships and boundaries and cheating. I haven’t […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Friends, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Mar 11th, 2014
Your friend tells you he’s getting divorced. You’re shocked because he and his wife always seemed like the perfect couple. You’re worried for them and their young kids, and their divorce causes you to reflect about a lot of things you’ve observed about marriage. You know enough from your own parents’ divorce how unhappy things […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Friends, Love, Men, Relationships on Mar 3rd, 2014
I caught up with a friend over coffee recently, and we eventually got around to what was going on in our love life. The last time we saw each other, he was wrestling with the desire to have kids of his own one day and his relationship with a wonderful woman whose kids are older […]
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