A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Relationships on Oct 21st, 2014
It’s hardly new news, that the couples that are divorcing the most in the United States right now are boomers. We’ve been talking about that since Al and Tipper Gore decided to split in 2010 after 40 years together (although they’re not yet divorced, another trend — the undivorced). But a recent study once again […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Sex on Oct 14th, 2014
Look at any website or magazine geared toward women and you’ll most likely see advice from “experts” — everything from “9 Ways to Save Your Marriage” to “10 Marriage Rules You Should Break” to “21 Secrets to a Happy Marriage” — to prevent a marriage from sliding into complacency and perhaps divorce. The secrets, tips, […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Oct 7th, 2014
Susan Pease Gadoua and I had a fantastic book launch Oct. 5 at the wonderful Book Passage in Corte Madera for The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels, with more than 70 people in the audience, bubbly, petits fours by Dragonfly Cakes and two flower bouquets made by Bloomingayles. We were […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Sex on Sep 29th, 2014
Susan Pease Gadoua’s and my book is finally out (yay!), and for those of you who are curious what we’re talking about, her’s a nifty flowchart that our publisher Seal Press put together. There are many more arrows that could connect the dots (or bubbles, as it were), such as a Parenting Marriage connecting to […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Sep 17th, 2014
I don’t know how anyone can make a love triangle feel good for everyone, but there are some love triangles that just appear downright, I dunno, weird. Take the Mark Sanford-Jenn Sanford-Maria Belen Chapur saga. The Sanfords’ bitter divorce drags on — five years after the married South Carolina Representative mysteriously disappeared only to be […]
Posted in Expectations, Gender, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on Sep 2nd, 2014
Does marriage change you as a person? According to Maroon 5’s Adam Levine, who has been married all of six weeks so we’ll have to take whatever he says with a grain of salt, being married makes him feel more “masculine.” “If it’s the right marriage, if it’s the right person, the guy feels a […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Women on Aug 25th, 2014
Women want sex and passion — surprised? If we are to believe a recent study by AshleyMadison.com, that’s why married women say they cheat. They’re not interested in ending their marriage, they’re just looking to put some spark in their sex lives and, let’s face it — once you’ve tried new sex toys, new positions, […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Men, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Aug 19th, 2014
Recently, there was an article on the HuffPost that I found somewhat disturbing. A newly divorced mom who admits she married young — 21 and just out of college — to a man with mental challenges. They eventually divorced with young children and now she has to co-parent with him as former spouses. If co-parenting […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women, Work on Aug 12th, 2014
You love your life, you love your spouse and you’re thinking about adding a baby into the mix because you love the idea of having a child with your beloved. No problem, right? Right … depending on your gender, something Rebecca Onion addresses so beautifully in her Slate article: I’m willing to allow that being […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Aug 5th, 2014
The past week has brought into our lexicon the idea of a beta marriage — a limited term marital contract — thanks to an article in Time magazine by Jessica Bennett, “The Beta Marriage: How Millennials Approach ‘I Do,‘ based on a (clearly unscientific) survey conducted by the USA Network in conjunction with Satisfaction, its […]
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