A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Stereotypes on Oct 27th, 2015
Marriage is hard work but worth it. If you end up divorced, it means you didn’t try hard enough, you don’t know what commitment means and you’re putting you own happiness before your family’s — or all of the above — and that’s why you have a failed marriage. What divorced person hasn’t heard that […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Oct 20th, 2015
I have been thinking about security lately, not in an Ashley Madison hack kind of way, but the way we seek security in romantic relations and what we gain — and give up — to have it. It was spurred by watching Vicky Cristina Barcelona again, the 2008 Woody Allen movie that explores the very […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Heartbreak, Love, Relationships on Oct 13th, 2015
I had been thinking about heartbreak. It wasn’t that I was experiencing any at that particular time, but like every who has lived a few decades, I’ve had my share of it. And I wondered — did my experience with the often excruciatingly painful reality of heartbreak influence how I moved forward in love and […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships, Weddings on Sep 29th, 2015
A month or so ago, I offered to work with a newlywed couple to create a marital plan. I got a polite, thanks but we’re just too busy and [new husband] isn’t too interested anyway. My The New I Do co-author Susan posited a similar question her friend about to marry. “Oh, we’re good,” the […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women, Work on Sep 22nd, 2015
I was talking to a GenX journalist friend, in the midst of a divorce, about marriage, divorce, etc., and we acknowledged that, unlike Boomers and Millennials, GenX men can be a bit confused about the massive change in gender roles and what women are looking for in a partner. As we continued our free-rambling conversation, […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Sep 8th, 2015
If you’re as selfie-obsessed as so many others seem to be, you might be aware of Chris and Shannon Neuman, the Canadian couple whose smiling selfie outside the court house, where they were about to end their 11-year marriage, went viral. I usually don’t pay too much attention to selfie news, and so I ignored […]
Posted in Aging, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Friends, Midlife, Millennials, Relationships, Single parents, Singles on Sep 1st, 2015
“A place to live is also a way to live.” From the buzz around Kate Bolick’s book Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own to the unfortunate language Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy used in writing the opinion legalizing same-sex marriage, of the unmarried being “condemned to live in loneliness,” the state of singles […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Aug 25th, 2015
The Ashley Madison hack is still topic No. 1 in the media — from divorce attorneys predicting a “Christmas in July” boon to their business, to potential extortion threats and suicides because of the sensitive information leaked, to continued shaming of those whose names were found on the site’s database — and it doesn’t look […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Relationships, Singles on Aug 18th, 2015
Evidently, love is dead. At least, that’s what far too many websites and magazines stated when rockers Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale called it quits after 13 years of marriage and three kids. But then again, the same was said about Kermit and Miss Piggy as well as Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert, Will Arnett […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jul 21st, 2015
I imagine this week’s news — that AshleyMadison.com, the website that encourages affairs, was hacked — has caused a certain amount of angst among the website’s 37 million-plus subscribers, many of whom are married or in committed relationships. Infidelity relies on secrecy, and with hackers demanding that the website and and its partner site, Established […]
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