A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Gender, LGBT, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Dec 15th, 2015
“Whatever, love is love,” actress Maria Bello’s 12-year-old son Jackson said to her when she told him that she had fallen in love with a longtime family friend — and a woman. In her Modern Love essay in 2013 and her book, Whatever … Love Is Love: Questioning The Labels We Give Ourselves, which came […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Marital plan, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Relationships, Wife, Women on Dec 1st, 2015
When I married for the first time in the ’70s, I was still young, not even 21, and admittedly clueless about what I was getting myself into. He was cute, I was cute, we loved each other, we had two dogs, a cat and a snake, and we were happy hippies living (barely, on my […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marital plan, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting, Relationships on Nov 24th, 2015
Nothing will make you think more about what marriage is about than a divorce. But there’s divorce and then there’s divorce. When I divorced in my 20s and we had nothing — no property, no savings, no kids — it was emotionally challenging, true, but that’s about it. If someone presented me a way to […]
Posted in Children, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Relationships on Nov 10th, 2015
The media is still trying to figure out the recent splits between rockers Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale after 13 years, and country singers Blake Shelton and Miranda Lampert after four years when it was revealed that The Voice co-hosts Gwen and Blake were an item. According to Gwen, “There’s been loads of people that […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Stereotypes on Oct 27th, 2015
Marriage is hard work but worth it. If you end up divorced, it means you didn’t try hard enough, you don’t know what commitment means and you’re putting you own happiness before your family’s — or all of the above — and that’s why you have a failed marriage. What divorced person hasn’t heard that […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Oct 20th, 2015
I have been thinking about security lately, not in an Ashley Madison hack kind of way, but the way we seek security in romantic relations and what we gain — and give up — to have it. It was spurred by watching Vicky Cristina Barcelona again, the 2008 Woody Allen movie that explores the very […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Sep 8th, 2015
If you’re as selfie-obsessed as so many others seem to be, you might be aware of Chris and Shannon Neuman, the Canadian couple whose smiling selfie outside the court house, where they were about to end their 11-year marriage, went viral. I usually don’t pay too much attention to selfie news, and so I ignored […]
Posted in Aging, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Friends, Midlife, Millennials, Relationships, Single parents, Singles on Sep 1st, 2015
“A place to live is also a way to live.” From the buzz around Kate Bolick’s book Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own to the unfortunate language Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy used in writing the opinion legalizing same-sex marriage, of the unmarried being “condemned to live in loneliness,” the state of singles […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Aug 25th, 2015
The Ashley Madison hack is still topic No. 1 in the media — from divorce attorneys predicting a “Christmas in July” boon to their business, to potential extortion threats and suicides because of the sensitive information leaked, to continued shaming of those whose names were found on the site’s database — and it doesn’t look […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Singles on Jul 28th, 2015
Perhaps you saw the recent Huffington Post article, “I want to be single — but with you.” It’s likely you did because it was shared more than 27,000 times, liked by 168,000 people and garnered almost 900 comments. The gist of the post by Canadian writer Isabelle Tessier is this — she wants to have […]
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