A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Oct 11th, 2016
No matter how you feel about the Angelina Jolie-Brad Pitt divorce — including the desire to not have to think about it, celebrity divorces or divorce in general — there is one thing all parents should pay attention to. The reason they split, we’re lead to believe, is because they couldn’t agree on how to […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Oct 4th, 2016
Affairs have suddenly popped up in the national conversation, and honesty — who doesn’t like a good open discussion about the dishonesty of infidelity? OK, well maybe it’s just me … Former New York mayor Rudy Giuliani, a pal of Donald Trump’s, recently suggested in a conversation slamming Hillary Clinton about Bill Clinton’s affairs that […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Aug 23rd, 2016
Let’s say you’re in a long-term marriage, one that’s pretty satisfying. You love your spouse, your spouse loves you, but you have a lot of things on your plate — work and kids and other things — and you’ve lost your sexual mojo. Would you tell your spouse, “Please have sex with someone else?” That’s […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, LGBT, Marriage, Relationships on Aug 16th, 2016
I know I’ve written about celebs from time to time, but just to be clear, I don’t think anyone should ever look to celebs as marital models — even long-term couples like Jeff Bridges and Kevin Bacon. So it was interesting to discover that Beyoncé Knowles and Kanye West are evidently making marriage “cool” again, […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Friends, Love, Relationships on Aug 9th, 2016
I’ve long been a fan of the writings of Meg-John Barker, a psychology lecturer and sex and gender therapist whose book, Rewriting the Rules, is a must-read for those who question the romantic love script most of us tend to follow as if it’s the only path available to us. So I was not surprised […]
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Relationships, Women on Jul 26th, 2016
You’ve consciously coupled. You and your spouse discussed everything from money to sex to children to in-laws to household chores. Maybe you even read The New I Do (hey, an author can dream, right?). I applaud you and support you. Still, I’ll bet there’s something you didn’t discuss, and it’s not because you’re oblivious. You’re […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Love, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships on Jul 19th, 2016
Recently, an old Modern Love piece appeared in my social media feed. It was about consensual non-monogamy so of course I had to click on it. I suppose it was a popular piece, as most Modern Love essays are, but this one — “When an Open Relationship Comes at a Price” — irked me a […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jul 12th, 2016
You’re in a long-term happy, sexually active marriage and one day you discover that your spouse has been cheating on you — basically since Day 1. How do you feel? You’d probably feel heart-broken and devastated, which is how a man writing to author, LGBTQ activist and columnist Dan Savage signed off as in his latest […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Jul 5th, 2016
Fans far and wide reacted to Eat, Pray, Love author Elizabeth Gilbert’s announcement last week that she and her companion of 12 years and husband of 9 years, Jose Nunes (aka Felipe in her best-selling book), are separating. It’s never an easy decision, even for a woman who so publicly wrote about the demise of […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Jun 7th, 2016
Why do you date? If you’re like most people, it’s most likely because you’re hoping to never have to date again — which means you find someone special to settle down with and be a committed, loving couple and perhaps even wed. What other purpose would there be to going through all the time, energy […]
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