A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Feb 7th, 2017
If we are to take the new 60 Minutes/Vanity Fair poll on marriage to heart, then Americans are still stuck in some sort of happily-ever-after rom-com version of wedded bliss. But like a lot of polls, the ways questions are phrased, what gets asked and what doesn’t, and who gets asked and who doesn’t have […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Expectations, Heartbreak, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Jan 24th, 2017
We are approaching Valentine’s Day, the most romantic time of the year, according to many. It’s when we buy a card and chocolates in heart-shaped boxes, and profess our love to our one true love. But what if you have two true loves? If you’re Carrie Jenkins, a philosophy professor at the University of British […]
Posted in Caregiving, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Wife, Women on Jan 10th, 2017
I’m not one to live in regrets. My feeling is, if I’m happy where I am right now then everything before this point, good and bad, got me here. That’s good enough. But every once and a while, I come across the “what I wish I knew before ….” articles, including ones on “what I […]
Posted in Caregiving, Coupledom, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 3rd, 2017
There’s an odd thing that happens whenever women write about how marriage is a better deal for men than women — men want to argue that we’re wrong. Marriage is bad for men, then say and then they back up their arguments by talking about … divorce. They complain that women get alimony, or spousal […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Single parents on Dec 27th, 2016
Ever since the second International Congress on Love and Sex with Robots took place a few weeks ago, there have been a deluge of articles talking about marriage between humans and robots and how sexbots might impact marriages, for better or worse. For every robot enthusiast, like artificial intelligent expert and Love and Sex With […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships on Dec 13th, 2016
Let’s face it — there’s no way to divorce-proof a marriage. You know it and I know it even if so-called marriage “experts” tell you there is. As I’ve written before, you can’t control another person’s behaviors and therefore if your spouse wants out, he or she is going to get out. That’s how it […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Nov 28th, 2016
The news that Melania Trump will live apart from her husband, President-elect Donald Trump for a few months until their son Barron, 10, finished school, was shocking to many people. While it may seem odd that a married couple doesn’t live together, the Trumps’ decision to live apart is actually part of a growing trend […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Love, Relationships on Nov 22nd, 2016
On a rainy cold night recently, I watched “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” again, the Oscar-winning 2004 film about love by screenwriter Charlie Kaufman and Michel Gondry that developed a cult following of sorts. Ostensibly, the romantic-sci-fi-comedy-drama addresses the importance of memory even as we struggle to get closure after a relationship falls apart […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Nov 1st, 2016
Monogamous marriage is unromantic. Not my words but the words of actor Hugh Grant while promoting the movie Florence Foster Jenkins. As he told radio host Howard Stern: I can see the lovely aspect if you marry exactly the right person — your best friend and it’s cozy and it’s lovely. But, people make so […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Wife on Oct 25th, 2016
When I interviewed Eric Anderson, an American sociologist at England’s University of Winchester, a few years ago, when his provocative book, The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating, was published, I was disturbed by his claim that cheating is a rational choice for people constrained by the social dictate of monogamy. According […]
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