A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Relationships, Sex on Feb 5th, 2014
I recently saw the movie “Her,” and while it isn’t the best movie I’ve ever seen, it is pretty much at the top when it comes to raising fascinating questions: what it means to be human, what we mean when we talk about love and intimacy, what sex is, and yes, how we can be […]
Posted in Aging, Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Jan 15th, 2014
Here’s what’s happened in the past year — two girlfriends have gotten engaged, and one has her condo on the market and is looking with her boyfriend to buy a new place and move in together. They are all 50-something, empty-nesters and divorced. Who says middle-aged women can’t find love again? I call BS. And […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Dec 24th, 2013
Christmas is upon us and while I know not everyone celebrates, all of us can take part in the spirit of the season. So, I’d like to give anyone who stumbles upon this site a gift. But before I get to that, here’s the back story. I love my job for many reasons, but perhaps […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes, Women on Dec 10th, 2013
Despite societal myths about older women no longer mattering sexually, I have never met a midlife mom post-divorce who didn’t want to be appreciated and embraced as a sexual being. That’s not to say that there weren’t some women who were perfectly content to surrender their sexual identity to focus on raising their children or […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Fathers, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships on Nov 26th, 2013
How much does a mom or a dad owe his or her a child? Of course, parents should provide food, clothing, safety and love. But must a parent give up more of him or herself? Last week, “Fresh Air’s” Terry Gross looked at the personhood movement. If you don’t know much about it, you should: […]
Posted in Expectations, Relationships on Nov 18th, 2013
I’ve been busy interviewing couples for The New I Do recently who experimented with opening their marriage (these have been fun interviews!), and was struck by what one woman told me. Monogamy can be dangerous, she says, because if you’re unable to express your sexuality, express being attracted to other people and be able to […]
Posted in Children, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Relationships on Nov 4th, 2013
I’m sure I was as surprised as anyone else to read that Norway is promoting date nights for couples as a way to stop the country’s 40 percent divorce rate. Solveig Horne, Norway’s new minister for children, equality and social inclusion and a divorcee herself, says, “It is important to find small pockets of time where […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Jul 22nd, 2013
I have been vacationing the past week and blissfully away from the Internet for most of the time. But before I left I’d made note of an article about Amy Friedman, a journalist who fell in love with an inmate — a murderer and former drug dealer — and who recently wrote a memoir about […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Jul 2nd, 2013
It has been 10 years since my (second) divorce, and while in some ways my life became harder and in other ways easier, there was one thing I hadn’t anticipated about being suddenly single at midlife — freedom. Well, I’m not exactly “free”; my boys were 9 and 12 at the time, so they lived […]
Posted in Expectations, LGBT, Marriage, Relationships on Jun 24th, 2013
The Supreme Court is expected to rule on two landmark cases impacting same-sex couples this week and their ability to marry (I am loathe to call it same-sex marriage or gay marriage because it’s just marriage, no different than anyone else’s marriage; the people in it just happen to be of the same sex). So […]
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