Adultery. What shall we do with it? Most just wish it would go away, and others — like myself — wonder what the high percentages of infidelity say about the institution of marriage. So I was intrigued by two interesting articles that appeared in the Philosopher’s Mail. Part one talks about the pleasures of adultery: […]
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Do Millennial men want to marry? A Time article, “Debunking the Myth of the Slippery Bachelor,” declared men want to marry as much as women do, according to a study of 5,200 people 21- to 65-plus years old. The standout were men ages 25 to 49 — they were less inclined to get hitched than […]
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Are we supposed to be with one person all our life, a recent HuffPost article asked. While not condoning infidelity, author Lisa Haisha wonders if “adultery may be inevitable,” especially since we live longer than ever before. As she writes: (I)n the course of a long term relationship, taking into account the practical realities of […]
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Posted in Expectations, Family, Gender, Love, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women on May 5th, 2014
Actress Kirsten Dunst, who graces the cover of Harper’s Bazaar UK this month, caused quite the kerfuffle recently when she expressed how she she feels about being a woman. “I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued. We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at […]
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When Andrew Dice Clay announced that he was divorcing his third wife, Valerie Silverstein, recently, I had to do a double-take on his reason: “The word ‘marriage’ was putting a pressure on our relationship and since we filed, we’ve been more in love and have had more respect for each other than ever before.” OK, maybe […]
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Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, LGBT, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Singles on Apr 1st, 2014
I am not a single mom — I’m a divorced coparenting mom who has had 50-50 joint physical custody, and even that has had its share of challenges. When I think of single parents by choice, I shudder a bit. I just can’t imagine beginning responsible for a baby or child 24/7 all by myself […]
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The news this week was that actress Gwyneth Paltrow and Coldplay front man Chris Martin are splitting, or as they put it “conscious uncoupling.” In a joint statement, the couple that married in 2003 said: “We are parents first and foremost, to two incredibly wonderful children and we ask for their and our space and […]
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My The New I Do coauthor Susan Pease Gadoua and I gave a workshop on dating at the Marin Teen Girls conference this past Saturday, and the room was packed. Fifty high school girls had gathered and they had questions. Lots of questions, smart questions, about sex and friendships and boundaries and cheating. I haven’t […]
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Your friend tells you he’s getting divorced. You’re shocked because he and his wife always seemed like the perfect couple. You’re worried for them and their young kids, and their divorce causes you to reflect about a lot of things you’ve observed about marriage. You know enough from your own parents’ divorce how unhappy things […]
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Should women make men wait to have sex? There’s been a flurry of discussion lately about that lately, first with the release of a video “The Economics of Sex” by the Austin Institute, a new academic initiative that conducts research on family, marriage and relationships (you can watch it below). I am quite leary about […]
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