A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Renewable marriage on Aug 29th, 2017
“For life. No one wants anything ‘for life.’ It just reminds us of our impending death.” So starts Lake Bell’s new movie, “I Do … Until I Don’t,” which explores the sorry state of marriage and the promise of a seven-year marital contract. I was incredible excited to learn about this film — its premise […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Aug 22nd, 2017
At some point, women recognize that they have sexual power. Often, it happens before we’re ready to have it — we develop breasts at a young age, for instance, and we’re clueless about what that does to boys and men. It’s both scary and exciting, but often more scary than not — until we know […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Gender, Men, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Singles, Women on Aug 15th, 2017
Who has the upper hand in dating, men or women? It might depend on whom you ask but there’s one thing I’ve been thinking about lately — how gals generally don’t have as much experience with rejection when it comes to dating as men do, although it may feel like it if they’ve been dumped, […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Friends, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Aug 8th, 2017
A few years ago, I broke up with someone I had been seeing for about a year. Because of age differences and life circumstance, we agreed from the beginning that it was not a relationship that was going to “go somewhere,” but we genuinely liked each other. So when it ended I said, “Let’s still […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marriage, Relationships on Aug 1st, 2017
What do you want out of life, happiness or meaning? I’ve been reading an advance copy of Eli J. Finkel’s The All-Or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work, which comes out this September. I’m excited about it for a few reasons, one because The New I Do is mentioned in it — thank you, Eli! […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Love, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Jul 25th, 2017
Many people made fun of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s conscious uncoupling a few years ago. But it’s evident that they have influenced a number of other newly divorced celebrity parents who are raising kids together to put aside their anger and differences and come together for their family. (Sienna Miller even admits to doing […]
Posted in Expectations, Gender, Men, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Stereotypes, Women, Work on Jul 18th, 2017
A lot of people made fun of Mike Pence in April when it was revealed that the Vice President won’t eat alone with any other woman than his wife, Karen, or even attend events where alcohol is served unless she’s there, too. Others thought, oh well — that’s just evangelical Christians for you. It would seem […]
Posted in Beauty, Dating, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Singles, Women on Jul 11th, 2017
I was sitting next to two women and hearing snippets of their conversation. The married one was uncertain and disillusioned in her marriage, full of complaints about her husband. It seemed as if he couldn’t do much of anything right: he didn’t do his share of housework or childcare, he always seemed to know when […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jul 4th, 2017
Jay-Z just released his latest album, 4:44, and it’s gathering the same buzz as the last record put out by his wife, Beyoncé — not just for the music, but because of what they’re talking about. In last year’s Lemonade, Beyoncé alluded to her husband’s alleged infidelity — remember that video showing Beyoncé’s sister Solange physically […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Marital plan, Relationships on Jun 27th, 2017
As a writer, nothing is more satisfying and affirming than when your writing positively impacts another person. Of course, the entire reason for writing The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels was to impact people — to make them think consciously about their romantic decisions. Which is why Mandy Len Catron’s […]
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