A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 23rd, 2018
In the past week we’ve seen the second women’s march and a spirited discussion about an account of “Grace,” a young woman whose date with comedian Aziz Ansari went horribly awry in her eyes, from being “by far the worst experience with a man I’ve ever had,” to unwanted sex — or what she considers […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Love, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Jan 15th, 2018
We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day, the day we celebrate romantic love. But what, exactly, is romantic love? If someone asked you, “What does love mean to you?” how would you answer? Would you say it’s wonderful or would you say love hurts? Or is it some combination? Most of us have our own definition […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 9th, 2018
Fire and Fury: Inside the Trump White House, a scathing look at Donald Trump, was just published , and while there are many shocking and horrific revelations in author Michael Wolff’s book, here are two that shouldn’t be: Trump and his wife, Melania, sleep in separate bedrooms, and they don’t spend a lot of time […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Jan 2nd, 2018
It’s January, a new year and the beginning of what’s known as “divorce month.” But when you file for divorce doesn’t really matter — what matters is how you divorce, especially if you have young children. Say what you will about Gwyenth Paltrow and her vaginal jade eggs, and Goop’s $290 sweat set, but there’s […]
Posted in Beauty, Children, Dating, Expectations, Family, Gender, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 26th, 2017
You know the drill — men want to date and marry a younger, beautiful woman and women want to date and marry men who have money and status. Is that still true today? Well, yes and no. In an article originally published at Aeon that has been republished under Creative Commons, professor of psychology Marcel […]
Posted in Dating, Gender, Happiness, Men, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Dec 19th, 2017
If you haven’t read “Cat Person” yet — Kristen Roupenian’s short story in the New Yorker of an ill-fated relationship (aka an uncomfortable one-night stand) between Margot, a 20-year old college student, and Robert, a 34-year-old man whom she met at the movie theater where she works — I’m betting you have at least heard of […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 12th, 2017
I am a champion of short-term love. That is how I have lived my entire life although, granted, I did say, “I do” twice with the presumption that those marriages would be forever. That’s all I knew, that was the romantic script; I didn’t know that we had choices. But we do. I have long […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Dec 5th, 2017
It’s December, beginning of engagement season. So if you’ve already gotten a ring, or hoping to get one this month, there’s just one thing left to do after you’re told your loved ones and friends, and posted your bling on Facebook and Instagram. No, not start planning your wedding — start planning your marriage. First […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Wife, Women on Nov 21st, 2017
Your spouse had an affair — can that benefit your marriage? According to renowned therapist Esther Perel’s new book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, maybe. Perel explores a lot in her book — much more than I can address here — but I was particularly drawn to her exploration of why more women are […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents on Nov 14th, 2017
Do we need marriage? The answer might be Iceland. For much of history, marriage mattered. It was a way to make sure property could be passed to heirs, alliances could be forged (often to avoid wars), children could be reared, society could be assured that caregiving would be taken care of and a lot of […]
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