A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Men, Sex, Work on Jul 10th, 2013
Former New York Gov. Eliot L. Spitzer is ready to get back in politics, as is former congressman Anthony Weiner. You remember them — both had sex scandals that derailed them from their positions. We’re all too eager to oust politicians who have been unfaithful, and the last few years have brought a spate of […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Jul 2nd, 2013
It has been 10 years since my (second) divorce, and while in some ways my life became harder and in other ways easier, there was one thing I hadn’t anticipated about being suddenly single at midlife — freedom. Well, I’m not exactly “free”; my boys were 9 and 12 at the time, so they lived […]
Posted in Expectations, LGBT, Marriage, Relationships on Jun 24th, 2013
The Supreme Court is expected to rule on two landmark cases impacting same-sex couples this week and their ability to marry (I am loathe to call it same-sex marriage or gay marriage because it’s just marriage, no different than anyone else’s marriage; the people in it just happen to be of the same sex). So […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Jun 18th, 2013
Two amazing things happened this weekend — I took part in the Women’s PowerStrategy Conference and it was my dad’s funeral. While those two events are seemingly disparate (while I celebrated my father’s life, I am still mourning my loss), I realized that something joyous happened at both events; a recognition that the stories we […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Relationships, Stereotypes on Jun 10th, 2013
A few months ago, I asked, does getting married make you an adult? It’s a question that came up when my The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Cynics, Commitaphobes and Connubial DIYers coauthor, Susan Pease Gadoua, and I met with two soon-to-be-married couples separately as we gathered research for our book. “Marriage is just […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Fathers, Men, Parenting, Stereotypes on Jun 4th, 2013
We’re coming up on Father’s Day, and even though I’m not a fan of Hallmark holidays the day will be nonetheless hard for me this year. My father passed away May 26, just a few weeks shy of his 89th birthday, so his death will be very fresh on the day to honor him. Although […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on May 20th, 2013
Why are so many people unhappy in their relationship? That’s a hard question to answer, although that doesn’t stop people from trying to figure it out. According to Dana Adam Shapiro’s research for his book You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married), very few married people are happy — he says about 17 […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Stereotypes on May 13th, 2013
Gwyneth Paltrow — the most beautiful woman in the world, according to People — confessed to what Ben Affleck admitted a few months ago — marriage is hard and it takes work. “It’s hard being married. You go through great times, you go through terrible times. We’re the same as any couple,” Paltrow said of […]
Posted in Children, Dating, Divorce, Expectations on May 6th, 2013
Like many others, I applauded Jason Collins’ brave decision to come out as gay. I can’t imagine what it would be like to hide my true identity for 12 years, as the the NBA veteran did. As broad-minded and accepting as many of us have become, many are still not as accepting of LGBT people […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Marriage, Stereotypes, Work on Apr 29th, 2013
I didn’t know much about Marco, the guy who kindly takes me to and from my mechanic and my job when my car needs servicing. I knew he is in the States legally, I knew he worked about 70 hours a week at two jobs, I knew he had a wife and a 9-year-old son […]
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